I am gay, ugly depressed. My friends make me feel worse. What should I do?

[EONP0987]

Yres, a simple smile can be a real door opener. Smile and if it's returned then your half way there. If you turn away and immerse yourself in your smartphone, you've lost.

I know for sure that he won't like me. We work at the same place, but different departments, so it's not like we are close, I only get to see him at lunch time.

However, I found his Instagram profile and it was private (what a pain) so I had to creake a fake profile using some pics of a cute guy that I have on my real account.

So, he accepted the invitation and seems like he's into the guy of the fake profile because he liked 3 pics right away. And also I found out that he is from Venezuela and also follows a lot of hoy guys there. So, I have no chance.

And before you say something, my frends got really angry at me because I made that fake profile instead of using my real one. I just couldn't.

[AlfredM]

I'm just gonna echo that you don't look ugly at all,and you're actually attractive. Basing your attractiveness on Grindr or similar apps is gonna give you a hard time,because most of the time, guys there are looking for sex and their standard can be pretty high and also shallow, they won't invest time on getting to know your other qualities which can just as much increase your attractiveness as a whole. That's just the nature of hook up scene,the same could be said in gay bars and clubs.

[LONDONER]

I know for sure that he won't like me

And before you say something, my frends got really angry at me because I made that fake profile instead of using my real one. I just couldn't.

I'm not surprised. I'm angry too. You've made up your mind that he won't like you and negative thought get negative responses. Why do you want to hide all the time? The very worst he could do would be to say "no". Look at this:

https://gayspeak.com/showthread.php?p=598820#post598820

[Cridders88]

You should've used your own profile picture. Using a fake one again, will get you nowhere. I bet the guys he follows are only as cute as you are.

I still cannot believe you think you're are ugly! I'm wondering if you are suffering from Body Dysmorphic Disorder. Your face shape, nose and smile are actually rather attractive to me, and I know will be to many other men aswell. You seem to be in fairly good shape too. Not that that matters to most people. Not everyone chases muscly studs. Rock hard abs are no good for cuddling in the night

[LONDONER]

Hi Cuddly. I've said before in another thread that I hate guys with exagerrated abs. They look deformed to me.

[EONP0987]

Señor, usted nos engañó vilmente. Nos prometió algo feo de ver y ud. no es nada de eso. Véase a ud. mismo como aquí le han visto otros. Muchas veces, somos nosotros mismos nuestros peores evaluadores.

Grindr is not the best place to be looking for anything else than meaningless hook ups. I think you want something better. Your self-value needs to be assessed elsewhere. Just a thought

Gotcha. All good friend. English is not my first language (that explains my bad grammar) sometimes things like this happen.

This forum is full of nice guys, I wish I could give you all a big hug.

[EONP0987]

You should've used your own profile picture. Using a fake one again, will get you nowhere. I bet the guys he follows are only as cute as you are.

I still cannot believe you think you're are ugly! I'm wondering if you are suffering from Body Dysmorphic Disorder. Your face shape, nose and smile are actually rather attractive to me, and I know will be to many other men aswell. You seem to be in fairly good shape too. Not that that matters to most people. Not everyone chases muscly studs. Rock hard abs are no good for cuddling in the night

I really don't know what to say. Just Thank you.

You are the hottie here.

Maybe it's just a good shot. That was a few months ago.I am a bit skinnier now.
I could share more pics but I won't. I didn't send this thread to boost my ego.

Even if I am "hot" and you all are right, unfortunately I don't see myself that way quite the opposite. I just want to know how to deal with this. I was left behind in life, I wonder if I will catch up one day.

[Insertnamehere]

¿Y si todos aquí solo están siendo amables y me dicen esas cosas solo para hacer sentirme mejor? Si de verdad fuese atractivo alguien se fijaría en mi al menos.

Or it's a cultural thing perhaps...

Le diré una cosa:

I've seen plenty of guys that have similar looks as you, with GF/BFs. They don't seem to have many troubles finding people. So I'd say that your issues come from confidence more than anything. I know confidence problems all too well, trust me.

You need to look at yourself with different eyes. None of us is going to be attractive to everyone, but there is always people that like our physical appearance, that is a sure thing.

The best part comes when they come to like the rest of us too. Your self worth needs to me assessed by including more variables too. All that you have to offer to a guy, someone will certainly will want to have.


Un abrazo, amigo

[EONP0987]

man if you are ugly, then other part of the world should suicide of shame... are you kidding me?

you are welcome though

Come on! Don't exaggerate. Thank you though.

How's the wheather there?

[koseku]

Come on! Don't exaggerate. Thank you though.

How's the wheather there?

It is quite good for begining of winter surprisingly, unlike forecaster said...