12-16-2015, 05:27 PM
Hey guys new on here so sorry if im posting this in the wrong section but I really need some help & advice.
To give you guys the full story I was with my ex girlfriend for 10 years, we were planning on getting married etc and we started growing apart and stopped talking and seeing each other as much and she ended up cheating on me and we split up and went seperate ways. Shortly after splitting up i got a new job in a different town than where i lived, and met loads of new people and a few of them happened to be gay who i got on really well with, and became good friends with.
Few months after splitting up with my ex girlfriend i started going out with these gay guys and girls from work and ended up in few gay bars (my first experience ever btw) and i ended up drinking quite a bit and dancing alot, never in my wildest dreams could i have guessed what was going to happen next, i got approached by a really good looking guy who i ended up dancing with and kissing ( by this time im really really drunk) and i went with it and it felt amazing, i hadnt felt passion like that in years and i think i enjoyed it. After that drunken kiss he got my number off a friend and text me the next day asking if i would like to see him again to which i said yes but needed some time to come to terms with what had happened, anyway i saw him for a while, we used to watch movies, kiss and have a little fun here and there but we talked alot and he really helped me to deal with my sexuality. He asked me if i wanted a relationship and i got scared and ran a mile and since that day we've never spoken.
Since then i was curious and i started meeting other guys just for a little fun here and there, but something amazing happened in July 2014, i was round my cousins for a party out of town and i messaged this really hot guy i saw on grindr, he messaged me back the next day and we talked loads and got on amazingly, he asked me if i would like to go on a date with him, to which i agreed, he seemed like a really nice guy and was a really nice guy too when i met him in person.
Me being silly was thinking all sorts like who pays for the food all the usual silly stuff etc, I really fancied him and thought it could be the start of something really amazing, so I agreed to go on a date, I drove an hour to his place, picked him up, we went to the cinema watched Transformers 3,really enjoyed it, had a really good laugh, ad then he took me around his town centre, showed me where we worked etc, and then we went for few drinks and I dropped him off home and then drove an hour home myself (I lived 40 miles away from him) We met the next da round his, we watched a movie, we were stroking each others leg and it was all going perfect, we didn’t kiss till the 3rd date and it was amazing an mind blowing, I still remember it now and it makes m heart melt. So we kept seeing each other and after a couple of months we said I love you to each other and it was a really good feeling to hear it back. We used to have the most amazing sex, we were sooo intimate and passionate with each other, I couldn’t keep my hands off him, and he couldn’t keep his hands off me, He would try new things he hadn’t done before and so would I because we felt so comfortable with each other.
Anyhow after 6 months of just seeing each other on Friday evenings, and Saturdays we decided to move in together and it all started going horribly wrong, we would text each other all day whilst at work silly stuff, like I’m horny and send each other naughty pics and say we will do naughty things to each other when we got home but nothing ever happened. We would get home, shower together in the same shower, without touching each other and then eat, watch TV and get in bed. One day he would say his backs hurting, the next his hip, and I slowly started realising that we’ve stopped having sex. He would get horny maybe once a week and try and wank me off and make me cum as quick as possible which doesn’t really do anything for me, so I just went along with it thinking its just a phase, anyway it would then be 2 months would go by and we would never have sex, he would just want to wank me, so I started doubting myself thinking have I changed? Does he not fancy me anymore etc? The usual silly questions we ask ourselves when we feel rejected. And I ended up going on grindr speaking to other guys about is it normal not to have sex for 2 months, am I normal to want to have sex? Am I normal to be horny every day? I was driving myself crazy, He then caught me on grindr sending guys pics of me topless etc and it really upset him and he cried, I promised him I had never cheated on him and was talking to other guys to see if im normal or weird, so we decided to give it another go, nothing changed, still no sex, just kept trying to wank me once a wee, if that even.
It got to a point where I was like he don’t want to have sex with me so Im not going to make an effort with him, Ive spoken to him about it, and at first he said it was his weight as he had put on a stone us living together, and didn’t feel comfortable having sex, which I was fine with, then months went by I would ask him again why we don’t have sex and he would bring up the grindr/trust issue. A few more months would go by I would ask him again why we don’t have sex and its now the weight issue. The last time I had amazing sex with him was around February/March time (this year), and we tried having sex is August and as soon I started moving, he said it hurts and was uncomfortable so I stopped immediately. Since then we haven’t even tried to have sex and its December, so that’s like 5 months now without any sex. I know a relationship isn’t all about sex and I agree with that statement 100%, a relationship is so much more but it is a big deal for me anyway. Its way of showing love, passion, intimacy etc. He used to me so horny I bottom’d for him and really enjoyed it. Since living together all of this year He’s had sex with me more than Ive had sex with him, and its bugging me so much to the point Im always sad, I just want to know why he wont have sex with me?
To give you guys the full story I was with my ex girlfriend for 10 years, we were planning on getting married etc and we started growing apart and stopped talking and seeing each other as much and she ended up cheating on me and we split up and went seperate ways. Shortly after splitting up i got a new job in a different town than where i lived, and met loads of new people and a few of them happened to be gay who i got on really well with, and became good friends with.
Few months after splitting up with my ex girlfriend i started going out with these gay guys and girls from work and ended up in few gay bars (my first experience ever btw) and i ended up drinking quite a bit and dancing alot, never in my wildest dreams could i have guessed what was going to happen next, i got approached by a really good looking guy who i ended up dancing with and kissing ( by this time im really really drunk) and i went with it and it felt amazing, i hadnt felt passion like that in years and i think i enjoyed it. After that drunken kiss he got my number off a friend and text me the next day asking if i would like to see him again to which i said yes but needed some time to come to terms with what had happened, anyway i saw him for a while, we used to watch movies, kiss and have a little fun here and there but we talked alot and he really helped me to deal with my sexuality. He asked me if i wanted a relationship and i got scared and ran a mile and since that day we've never spoken.
Since then i was curious and i started meeting other guys just for a little fun here and there, but something amazing happened in July 2014, i was round my cousins for a party out of town and i messaged this really hot guy i saw on grindr, he messaged me back the next day and we talked loads and got on amazingly, he asked me if i would like to go on a date with him, to which i agreed, he seemed like a really nice guy and was a really nice guy too when i met him in person.
Me being silly was thinking all sorts like who pays for the food all the usual silly stuff etc, I really fancied him and thought it could be the start of something really amazing, so I agreed to go on a date, I drove an hour to his place, picked him up, we went to the cinema watched Transformers 3,really enjoyed it, had a really good laugh, ad then he took me around his town centre, showed me where we worked etc, and then we went for few drinks and I dropped him off home and then drove an hour home myself (I lived 40 miles away from him) We met the next da round his, we watched a movie, we were stroking each others leg and it was all going perfect, we didn’t kiss till the 3rd date and it was amazing an mind blowing, I still remember it now and it makes m heart melt. So we kept seeing each other and after a couple of months we said I love you to each other and it was a really good feeling to hear it back. We used to have the most amazing sex, we were sooo intimate and passionate with each other, I couldn’t keep my hands off him, and he couldn’t keep his hands off me, He would try new things he hadn’t done before and so would I because we felt so comfortable with each other.
Anyhow after 6 months of just seeing each other on Friday evenings, and Saturdays we decided to move in together and it all started going horribly wrong, we would text each other all day whilst at work silly stuff, like I’m horny and send each other naughty pics and say we will do naughty things to each other when we got home but nothing ever happened. We would get home, shower together in the same shower, without touching each other and then eat, watch TV and get in bed. One day he would say his backs hurting, the next his hip, and I slowly started realising that we’ve stopped having sex. He would get horny maybe once a week and try and wank me off and make me cum as quick as possible which doesn’t really do anything for me, so I just went along with it thinking its just a phase, anyway it would then be 2 months would go by and we would never have sex, he would just want to wank me, so I started doubting myself thinking have I changed? Does he not fancy me anymore etc? The usual silly questions we ask ourselves when we feel rejected. And I ended up going on grindr speaking to other guys about is it normal not to have sex for 2 months, am I normal to want to have sex? Am I normal to be horny every day? I was driving myself crazy, He then caught me on grindr sending guys pics of me topless etc and it really upset him and he cried, I promised him I had never cheated on him and was talking to other guys to see if im normal or weird, so we decided to give it another go, nothing changed, still no sex, just kept trying to wank me once a wee, if that even.
It got to a point where I was like he don’t want to have sex with me so Im not going to make an effort with him, Ive spoken to him about it, and at first he said it was his weight as he had put on a stone us living together, and didn’t feel comfortable having sex, which I was fine with, then months went by I would ask him again why we don’t have sex and he would bring up the grindr/trust issue. A few more months would go by I would ask him again why we don’t have sex and its now the weight issue. The last time I had amazing sex with him was around February/March time (this year), and we tried having sex is August and as soon I started moving, he said it hurts and was uncomfortable so I stopped immediately. Since then we haven’t even tried to have sex and its December, so that’s like 5 months now without any sex. I know a relationship isn’t all about sex and I agree with that statement 100%, a relationship is so much more but it is a big deal for me anyway. Its way of showing love, passion, intimacy etc. He used to me so horny I bottom’d for him and really enjoyed it. Since living together all of this year He’s had sex with me more than Ive had sex with him, and its bugging me so much to the point Im always sad, I just want to know why he wont have sex with me?