forever single

[supasyd]

Oy, 22 and sick of life already... You've barely lived pup. You have a narrow slice of experience to judge the rest of the world from. Being young is about taking risks and fucking up. Being old is about having experience fucking up and avoiding risks.

Since you aren't meeting guys who "get" you, try finding places to hang that you feel comfortable, and then maybe you'll find the type of guys who get you. What type of music are you into? Find clubs that play that kinda music. Or are you into video games, then find guys to hang and play games with. Stop trying to find the "one" and just try finding friends for a while.

You haven't gone into detail about why you think your behavior is so alien. Can't be any stranger than any of the rest of us.

I feel like I've tried all this. Im really not trying to find the one; I've been avoiding relationships and guys because they always make me feel shit and suicidal. I've really been in denial about the fact I have feelings of infatuation again because i know im not ready for these feelings

[shyl4l]

I hope this has translated properly
Rydych chi chi . Byddwch yn naturiol . Rydych yn hardd. Yr ydych yn inteligent . Rydych yn her . Yr ydych yn ifanc. Rydych yn cariadus ond mae cymaint caru chi dont adnabod beth i'w wneud ag ef neu ei experss . Rydych yn chwilio am somthing chi belive yn bodoli mwyach. Rydych fydd un diwrnod fydd y llusern i'r cariad sy'n goleuo yn falorn bodolaeth i arbed y person hwnnw. Peidiwch â gwario eich hun ar efelychiadau rhad. Eich mae'r artical dilys !

[supasyd]

diolch yn fawr [MENTION=23291]shyl4l[/MENTION] that was really lovely. I certainly understood what was said. helped me feel a lot better. tried quoting but phone is playing up

[shyl4l]

Your more than welcome. I'm struggling myself slightly as i have started coming out it helps to know i have in some small way helped ease someone else. ��

[Anocxu]

I feel like I've tried all this. Im really not trying to find the one; I've been avoiding relationships and guys because they always make me feel shit and suicidal. I've really been in denial about the fact I have feelings of infatuation again because i know im not ready for these feelings

Then take the advice of letting this guy go then ..stand on your own two feet for a while..

Get in touch with yourself. .
Know yourself. .
Learn to love yorself.
This is also a great way of knowing and learning things that will or will not work for you regarding your love life.

We are responsible for about 90% of everything that happens in our adult life..
If some of your darkest moments have been tied to you being in a relationship. .

Take the advice of the members that said .. let it go..
Heal..

[kindy64]

There are types of people, period. Male, female, gay, straight, bisexual, every group has its share of people who are rotten to the core.

Guys who just want a physical release and willing to do anything to get you to be their cum dumpster. They don't care about you, they care about themselves. It is not exclusive to gay men. There are plenty of straight guys who use women the same way.

If you want to protect yourself from them, then stop giving it away. Make the person you are interested in earn access your body.

If you want a relationship with someone, make them earn your love, and stop thinking infatuation is the same thing as love.

[IanSaysHi]

I've reworded your opening message to a more positive way of looking at things that might help.

Original:
the guy I can't stop thinking about obviously doesn't want me, neither did my ex or anyone else ive like beause i like wankers apparently. sure people love using me for a quicky but never anything more. im so sick of being single and unloved, sick of men, sick of unrequited feelings and sick of feeling so undesirable and ugly and like a fuck up. I am just not cut out to be gay I don't understand how guys are happy to fuck me and take me out and spend time with me but saying relationship is like walking into obamas election speech in a kkk uniform. am so totally done. I tried online dating and got a psycho stalker who looked like hed been hit in the face with a frying pan, so not going there again. don't know what to do. my self esteem is getting the same treatment as london circa 1940. I want advice but I don't know if there is any that can even help.

Revised:
I'm on a bit of a low at the moment because I've realised a guy I like doesn't like me in the same way, which I'm sure 99% of people have also experienced. I've also realised that the chances of having had a stable, long-lasting relationship at the age of 22 are low as a lot of people have to date a few people before they find something long lasting. I really want to find the right guy but because I can't find the right person quickly and despite my best efforts, it makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong.
A lot of guys just want to have sex but maybe they just don't want to settle down, and if I don't think they're after what I'm after then maybe I won't sleep with them. I've tried online dating however felt like giving up after having had one bad experience... So maybe I should keep trying sites like plentyoffish? If you take a look online you will also notice there are a lot of single guys so I'm not alone, and sometimes things just happen when you're not looking for them so maybe I could concentrate on other things like social life, career etc for now.

[TigerLover]

Whoa easy there bud. We're 22 you can't expect everyone in our age group to want a long-term relationship. It might have nothing to do with you and everything to do with these guys not wanting to settle down.

Besides you can't rely on another man to maintain your self-esteem, you've got to believe in yourself.
If you have the time why not try a little charity work?

[supasyd]

Sorry [MENTION=23058]IanSaysHi[/MENTION] I appreciate the sentiment but that's really not how I feel at all. I'm not trying to find the one. I'm trying to concentrate on myself already but I can't help my feelings getting in the way. i have a crush but i also just really miss the feelings that cone with being in a relationship. Online Dating really pissed me off I found nothing on any of the sites. I'm not trying to be negative I am just being honest

[IanSaysHi]

Sorry [MENTION=23058]IanSaysHi[/MENTION] I appreciate the sentiment but that's really not how I feel at all. I'm not trying to find the one. I'm trying to concentrate on myself already but I can't help my feelings getting in the way. i have a crush but i also just really miss the feelings that cone with being in a relationship. Online Dating really pissed me off I found nothing on any of the sites. I'm not trying to be negative I am just being honest

Okay well good luck whatever you desire, hope you find it