bryyzy Wrote:Personally I never had that attraction to an older guy. In my view. I just think they're a little on the creepy side. It's not to be offensive but if I was being hit on by a 40yr old. I would be like Ewwwww get away. Its just how I am. I never had a thing for older guys because I don't need maturity in my life. I am mature enough in my own mind to not want an older guy.
Perhaps without being offensive you are being offensive, I'm 16, while I will not go myself for a man more than 10 years over me which in my case would make him 26, I do not see people older as being creepy because I'm a young guy. My dad is 40 and his husband is 10 years younger and trust me you wouldn't guess their ages if you were to see them, dad has had the same look and face for many years and his body can compete with many of those so called twink (if not better because at least he has muscle) and Alex his husband is one heck of a hot beautiful blond guy with eternal youth.
You say you are mature? So saying ewww to a guy twice your age just base on a number is proof of maturity to you? If there is one thing I learn from my parents is that "maturity" is widely misunderstood, you believe to be mature in your own way? Right! Do you have children? House, car, people other than yourself you have to care about? Your ageist behavior shows a gross lack of maturity and your view on older gentlemen is just plain disrespectful.
You may not want to be 40, but you will turn 40, and 20 years isn't that far away from you. In 10 years you'll be 30, so I guess 30 is another ewww to you. Honestly dude I'm much younger than you are and yet I have learn respect, what you have isn't a lack of maturity, it's a total lack of respect and perhaps a little bit of a shallow behavior, perhaps it would do you good to get with someone older so you stop believing that you'll be young forever. It's a 16 years old boy telling it to you... but I guess because I'm younger and underage, I don't know what I'm talking about right?
30-40 isn't near of being old, and I sure know some 20 ish who could learn a thing or two about respectful behaviors toward older gay men - from what I know many people here are over the age of 40 and by saying that ewwww creepy you're insulting half of the people on this forum.
The 30-40 and even older are the one who made it easier for you to be gay today, you should thank them instead of looking at them as predator. Just my honest opinion... you don't care it's fine, it just needed to be told.