Should I lower the bar and date guys I don't like for the sake of not feeling lonely?

[kindy64]

What if the problem is being too ugly?

Even ugly guys get laid... and married...

But I've found most guys who think they are ugly, are comparing themselves to "perfect" specimens from porn and finding themselves wanting to be like they are.

[Sylph]

In the world of acting if you're given a role that's not always leading your pretty fucked, But you have to do something to make that character standout from all the rest. Now its your turn to make yourself stand out! Be bold go up to guys and talk to them, Buy them a drink, Go and up and ask them to dance (dry hump) You have to take charge sometimes and be the leader and not the follower

Hmm

After this post, I'm reconsidering dating you

Confidence without arrogance is a huge turn on for me and the fact that you would try to hump me while we're dancing, loses you 2pts, but is still a plus .


Sadly however; because of my personality and halfway appealing appearance; I get more attention than I honestly care to get
And coming from a person that went through the whole "ugly duckling, now a swan" thing: I can sincerely say I prefer to be a ugly duckling if it means I can avoid men and their ever present penises


And because I'm on a small island and its not a whole heap of gay guys, especially feminine ones: You're almost like the last unpollinated flower and every bee wants to pollinate your ass.


The grass isn't always greener on the otherside.
Its just different than the grass you're used to.

[Borg69]

What if the problem is being too ugly?

Shop at Wal-Mart. Plenty of us uggo' s are out there in relationships and getting laid. Raise the bar, work on your self esteem, get realistic expectations, and be more forward.

[Camfer]

You might want to develop an even stronger circle of friends so you don't feel so lonely. Then, a boyfriend is more of an augmentation to your already-pretty-good life rather than someone who is going to fill some perceived gap in your life. You might discover that relationships work better when you are together out of mutual admiration rather than need.

As for physical attractiveness, there are all kinds of tastes out there. Be awesome in who you are, and people will be attracted to who you are. Looks fade, but character tends to stick around longer. Which would you rather be admired for?

[CorsacReborn]

So far I've seen that you've based your insecurities on the looks of other guys that you like and how you think that you have no chance with them, when you sell yourself short in a public arena and don't look too happy people will see that and look elsewhere. Confidence is an attractive feature for everyone across the whole dating spectrum, you need to learn what makes you feel confident and build on top of that.

You said you don't want an "Andrew Christian" model but most of your post has been based on the looks of other guys you've liked and how you feel like you're not good looking enough. Your bar that you hold for guys sounds like it has been more about looks then what other qualities a guy actually has, looks are an external feature and there are far more features in a guys personality that can even make looks a redundant issue.

[JackTX]

What's more important to you, not feeling lonely or dating a hottie?

I like the "find friends" advice. It served me well when I was single.

[drobs]

Try broadening your spectrum - dating pool...
Try dating some older guys. Be some 50yr old's boy toy. You might like it...

Are you on any of the dating apps?
Grindr - seems like a good way to meet guys.

Back in the day, there were times when I just wanted to get off / fuck or get fucked. I dated some older guys, showed up at their house. Had a drink and chatted for a bit, asked to use the bathroom, stripped down, then walked out of the bathroom naked...

[JackTX]

Try broadening your spectrum - dating pool...
Try dating some older guys. Be some 50yr old's boy toy. You might like it...

Are you on any of the dating apps?
Grindr - seems like a good way to meet guys.

Back in the day, there were times when I just wanted to get off / fuck or get fucked. I dated some older guys, showed up at their house. Had a drink and chatted for a bit, asked to use the bathroom, stripped down, then walked out of the bathroom naked...

Wow.. bold O.o