SirGreendown... couldn't 'quote' another friggin technical issue I'm over it! LOL
My response to you original post:
Everyone's looking for someone... so many variables. I wonder why I don't connect with people... and it has a lot to do with my sensitivity, insecurity, anxiety... I'm not bad looking... logically, I should have more opportunity too, but I don't. I think most people are dealing with insecurity in one way or another. When we do connect, it really is like winning the lottery... it's rare.
I'm 48 and going though much of the same things you are. It's rough 'out there'.
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Is it possible your just not your type? When you tend not to find yourself attractive it could just mean you dont fit the type you do find attractive! Doesn't mean your not just means you wouldn't fuck yourself xD
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Well, OP, you appear to be be wearing makeup and your face seems a bit too groomed, unrealistic. I would reserve judgment until I saw what you looked like coming out of your morning shower.
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You are attractive, in my opinion. Just try to workout a little bit and grow a beard to see if it suits you.
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Well I'm gonna speak this thread because I had the same question a long time ago until I reached a few conclusions...
First... Apps are shit.
The way you think you looks depends exactly in the way you feel about yourself, these apps create literally a fake world were everything is more perfect than what actually is. I watched in person in the work I am, a lot of people that on instagram or facebook wouldn't looks like the 2,000+ likes they probably have, so they have the inflated egos, but in person just doesn't looks to me like the big deal. And watched a few simple guys who looks like OMG! but probably they actually didn't know, or knows it but doesn't really care too much and have the "I'm just an average person attitude".
Second, the way you attract someone depends on the way you want to attract particular people... that's the type. If you say that you're feminine and like masculine guys, that's cool. but thinking that masculine looking handsome dudes just only will be interest in liking people the exact as them is actually biased and wrong...
Personally I don't consider myself a model, but I know that I'm not ugly, so if using this apps are just bellowing your confidence... Well you are actually creating a feedback that is influencing your attitude in the real life. You just have to be more open to the vibes... I remember being in the first year of university. My case in that year was the opposite, my close ex-friends were thinking that I wasn't very good looking (or that's what I thought I never ask them directly) but one day I was out with a friend, we went to a mall and that day she noticed that almost 10 good looking dudes was trying to flirt with me but I WAS the one who believe that I wasn't the good looking enough... so I didn't noticed them vibes because I wasn't open to them...
The next years in uni was the same, and interchanged, the "ugliest" I felt the most my friends noticed that good masculine dudes liked me, and the "nicer" I felt my friends didn't notice any vibes, but I did.
That's what I called seasons, some months I had good seasons and some bad ones... but what I finally reached to know, is that all that thing was just on my mind...
I actually see myself as a person, not ugly or handsome, just myself and that's it. some people like me as a whole and other just my looks, others just my personality, but that's it!
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its a dangerous question to ask if your attractive or not , your basically asking for validation on your looks - but just imagine if someone came online with no care about what they say and called you ugly etc , that would really damage your confidence - I believe that there is someone for everyone out there , the hard part is finding them...the journey can be fun too though
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Am I considered to be attractive?
You're cute yourself!
else id be slutty running around telling guys they were handsome unless asked 
