Hello, [MENTION=24108]Doc[/MENTION], and
to GaySpeak. Stress, depression, some medicines, psychological stuff, fatigue, wrong kind of food, all sorts of things can come and bother a man's libido, and we're fragile creatures in that respect.
I don't know if your finally admitting it to yourself that you're 99% gay has contributed to your lack of desire, but it could be that you are now a little more at peace with yourself, although I think you are still putting a lot of stress on yourself to tell SOMEONE at last. Just let the idea go and one day, it'll just come pouring out of your mouth as if it were the most natural thing. You've got to give yourself time to 'own' it.
I found that once I'd admitted it to myself seriously, I also started looking at the world differently.
After all, we don't need to be sexed 100% of the time ie constantly. It would be good to think that we can focus on other things like life in general, right?
Be kind to yourself and don't beat yourself up about being what you might consider cowardly. Maybe the testosterone levels have fallen a bit. Coming out is still one big thing / hurdle in a gay man's life. It might be more important, in fact, to be able to tell a man that you find him attractive, or that you love him, if that's what you're going for.
Take care.