Okay hopefully I'm in the right place. I recently found out that my ex boyfriend likes to cross-dress
I found pictures on his phone of himself dressed up as a female wearing a wig high healls and He told me that he just started doing it and he wouldn't do it again. I then found out that he started doing it a long time ago because I went online and I ended up finding pictures a whole bunch of pictures of him on porn sites and videos where he was dancing in women's clothes and touching himself. He watches transgender porn (guys that look like girls) he saves pictures of dicks to his phone and of these women transgendered women.. I am so confused and I've asked him if he's gay and he says no but I really think that he is how do I know if he is is there a way to find out what do you think please help me I have a child with this guy. I love him so much am I just wasting my time.
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law of attraction .. men have a tendency to be attracted to what is strange to them .. like me .. i will be straight here .. i dont see caucasian guys all the time .. and they are sort of weird to me .. because i dont see them all the time and that's where all the weirdness turns into something sexual .. he must be weirded out by how feminine some guys can get and that can be where his attraction must be rooted .. again .. this is just my theory/opinion/speculation .. but you want answers from us .. you could never ask him straight out can you .. i dont think he doesnt love you though .. maybe he just wants to have fun .. sex and love are not the same thing and you know how men are the most sexual beasts on the planet ..
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Mel Wrote:Okay hopefully I'm in the right place. I recently found out that my ex boyfriend likes to cross-dress
Ex-boyfriend. It's none of your business what he does or does not do. It's his life. It does not concern you. Stay out of it.
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yes, you are wasting your time because my impression is you are using the fact that he is the father of your child to try and change him...and since he is your EX, what he does is no longer your concern.
Move on and and let him be...and let him be a father, using a child as a pawn is one of the most horrible things a parent can do.
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Yes he is my ex my abusive ex who honestly couldn't care much less about our daughter or else he'd be around. I'm trying to make sense of his inability to get close to anyone and general opposition to authority and lack of respect. I believe it is because he has not been honest with himself or anyone else about who he is. And you know it isn't my job to do that for him or tell him anything etc. I am not even speaking to him as of now, I am on here just wanting to find out what everyone else thinks. I love him and I always hold onto possibility that he comes back once again saying "I'm worth it" and decides to treat me derby. We always get back together. But i think he is not intimate with me and is so angry because he doesn't have a sexual attraction to me. He may love me but I believe he comes back around because he misses our daughter and he pretends to and feigns having interest in "us" to get through the door. I'd let him see his child either way, shit I beg him to.. I just wanted to kanyinea opinion is all thanks
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Welcome [MENTION=24122]Mel[/MENTION]!
I think the only way to understand his sexuality is to spend more time talking to him about it in a non-judgmental, non-threatening way. He would have to feel safe to tell you more about it. There's a lot more to sexuality than gay or straight.
It would be helpful to know why this is important for you. Are you hoping to get back together with him? Are you just needing to know because you are raising a kid together but living apart? What will a greater understanding of his sexuality mean to you, and how does it affect things? If you give more context here, people can be more helpful.
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As is probably noted in one or more of the links above, crossdressing does not necessarily indicate gay. Go to Savage Love, Dan Savage's column online, and read up a bit. You may be surprised at the things that 'straight' guys are into.
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Well it matters to me because yes he has my heart I am not even open to other people because he's got all of me.. I forgot to mention he was having correspondence with people on Craigslist under men seeking men.. he says just for shits and giggles. I hear about women being with men for thirty years and having three kids and come to find out the man isn't straight. There are other things like the fact that he hardly is ever hard with me although he claims to love my body it's always verbally and not physically as much but of course we have a child so it happens just not at all enough I think. He is extremely closed off and always on the defensive, he'd rather fight then get along. I mean it would all make sense if it was because he was gay. So many things would fall into place and maybe I am just wanting an answer for his bad behavior but maybe he is gay or wants to be a female. Either way I'm not judging
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