This Is What's Wrong With Gay Dating

[SilverBullet]

hmmmm, wonder if we got some psyc majors in tha house ^_^, could maybe shed more light on your question.

[InbetweenDreams]

I had to go look up what they acronym BB stands for.

Ah...

...what are you referring to?

[drobs]

...what are you referring to?

The grindr - pic mentions NSA, BB, 4:20, Only Top.

Don't think I knew what BB stood for.

[InbetweenDreams]

The grindr - pic mentions NSA, BB, 4:20, Only Top.

Don't think I knew what BB stood for.

Oh yeah , never caught that lol yeah that's kind of risky business advertising that on grindr...

[MHJG]

Recently I'm very intersted in adultery stories and read a lot. After reading this thread....... I wonder if there are real decent men...

[InbetweenDreams]

Recently I'm very intersted in adultery stories and read a lot. After reading this thread....... I wonder if there are real decent men...

Yeah I mean I think so, there's just a lot of sort out. I mean everyone wants a hot boy friend, someone with a good personality, someone who is kind, someone who be a lot of different things... then there's the sex and sexual compatibility thing... There's natural urges and desires, etc. So yeah a lot of stuff to really sort through. But no even with considering all that not sure why people cheat, not sure... I haven't experienced enough to understand why I would or anyone would. I know it is far worse to be with the wrong person than being a lone and being a lone sucks a lot at times but a shitty relationship sucks worse as there's many threads on here about bad relationships.

I mean I think we all want the same things, we want to be happy, that's all, we want to belong and be accepted and loved. Doesn't sound like a lot to ask of someone but it is.

[artyboy]

Nope just want the press tell you lol!

[kindy64]

Good gay men exist, some of us are bisexual though...

It is funny how many guys will have "seeking LTR" in their profile, but "Right Now" in what they are seeking.

If you want a LTR, put your physical desire last. Get to know a person, make sure you have things in common besides compatibility in bed.

19 months with my guy, I have been patient with him, he has a history of sexual/partner abuse, and other mental issues. I've been learning about his conditions to better understand how to approach things with him. He is likewise patient with my issues. If sex were the most important thing to me, I'd have gotten rid of him long ago. But his soul and our long term happiness are more important than immediate gratification. Not breaking our trust in each other is also very important. Even with his permission, I am not ready to open our relationship. I'd be jealous if he did it, and despite his assurances that it would be alright, I won't do it. I'd rather our relationship be healthy and solid in all aspects before seeking the occasional treat outside of him.

In fact, my grindr profile says "looking for friends. that means friends, not code for anything, not FWB, just friends." Says I'm engaged, and looking for "Friends, Networking" Yet I still get hit up with unrequested explicit pictures and suggestions to hook up. And, "oh I won't tell"

On the one hand, getting hit on is an ego boost, but I've had to get down right rude with some people, and then block them cause of this. It's like these guys can't believe any other guy can be in a committed, exclusive relationship and not cheat. Heck, I don't even have to cheat, I just need to inform my guy that I want to hook up with someone else. Only rules he has is the guy has to be disease free, safe sex only, and he has to approve of the guy.

LONG term relationships take commitment from both parties.

[InbetweenDreams]

Good gay men exist, some of us are bisexual though...

It is funny how many guys will have "seeking LTR" in their profile, but "Right Now" in what they are seeking. If you want a LTR, put your physical desire last. Get to know a person, make sure you have things in common besides compatibility in bed.

Yeah it is, and I am talking about things like Grindr. I mean stranger things can and do happen. I have heard, perhaps on here, that hookups became happy relationships of many many years...but that's uncommon. It does seem though many guys, including myself, struggle to figure out which of those choices do you want. I have for the most part abstained a lot because much of me wants to go for the long term but loneliness and being horny sometimes I snap back or get ideas that things I know won't work will work.

19 months with my guy, I have been patient with him, he has a history of sexual/partner abuse, and other mental issues. I've been learning about his conditions to better understand how to approach things with him. He is likewise patient with my issues. If sex were the most important thing to me, I'd have gotten rid of him long ago. But his soul and our long term happiness are more important than immediate gratification. Not breaking our trust in each other is also very important. Even with his permission, I am not ready to open our relationship. I'd be jealous if he did it, and despite his assurances that it would be alright, I won't do it. I'd rather our relationship be healthy and solid in all aspects before seeking the occasional treat outside of him.

LONG term relationships take commitment from both parties.

I agree 100% with everything you said here. Getting to that point with someone is honestly I guess beyond what I know. I mean yeah I have had boyfriends and all that but just seems like a inch deep compared to what it would take to actually make a successful long, life long, relationship.

I do disagree with what one of my friends told me, she said there's someone out there for you. I'm like yeah, hopefully so. But the answer is no, there's isn't someone for everyone. Some people will stay single, others will go from relationship to relationship. Sometimes though you do get lucky and I know people who from my POV are lucky and I do envy them.

[Darius]

Recently I'm very intersted in adultery stories and read a lot. After reading this thread....... I wonder if there are real decent men...

Forget about adultery stories. Read some threads at Gayspeak and you will see there are plenty of decent men. Aren't you one of them?