I will never be happy?

[RomanticMan]

I meet him on a dating app. It's been 5 months now.

In Turkey, dating apps are nothing but porn sites. All look for sex and all behave different. and I cannot bear those things anymore. I sometimes ask myself ''why me'' or ''I wish I had a chance to blah blah''.

I sometimes feel attraction to some people and cannot even say it. Once I was in Starbucks and our hands touched with a cute guy while changing money. I could tell nothing.

[RomanticMan]

I meet him on a dating app. It's been 5 months now.

Here all people care is sex on dating apps. you try to talk to them but they refuse to do so if you dont want to have sex.

[Dan1980]

Here all people care is sex on dating apps. you try to talk to them but they refuse to do so if you dont want to have sex.

I had a few of them here. But there is a few who want more than just sex.

[RomanticMan]

I had a few of them here. But there is a few who want more than just sex.

I live in a small place in Turkey, I just set is as Istanbul here, though. But there is not few here. and nobody thinks of living together because they think it's dangerous. and it's dangerous for real.

I cannot keep this reality inside me without telling anybody. I just told about this to an online friend of mine. nobody knows in real life.

[TigerLover]

Forget hunting for love.
Focus on self improvement. Physical, financial and intellectual.

Love has a weird way of finding you if you just relax and socialise a little.

[InbetweenDreams]

I guess the best advice is to get out of Turkey and go to a country where it is more socially acceptable...meaning Europe... which is pretty much saying most people "Go climb Everest"

True love, sure it is exists and even in places where being gay are more socially acceptable, not dangerous, it is still hard to find a good person to date. So many variables and things that can go wrong, not to factor in where you live and like myself in a rural area.

I do think, that eventually even I will find someone but I will say from experience that you can have some false alarms and just end up heart broken.... When you think someone is "perfect" almost that's almost a sure sign you're crushing and that can often lead to heartbreak. I mean it has for me. I mean I was showing my friend some older pictures of me and wondered why I was single and so on...well I don't know, the universe works in weird ways.

I don't know much about Turkey but maybe there's some cities or communities where it is better for gay couples... like for instance San Francisco, California is known to be more socially acceptable of gay couples than say... Tuscaloosa, Alabama.

[RomanticMan]

I guess the best advice is to get out of Turkey and go to a country where it is more socially acceptable...meaning Europe... which is pretty much saying most people "Go climb Everest"

True love, sure it is exists and even in places where being gay are more socially acceptable, not dangerous, it is still hard to find a good person to date. So many variables and things that can go wrong, not to factor in where you live and like myself in a rural area.

I do think, that eventually even I will find someone but I will say from experience that you can have some false alarms and just end up heart broken.... When you think someone is "perfect" almost that's almost a sure sign you're crushing and that can often lead to heartbreak. I mean it has for me. I mean I was showing my friend some older pictures of me and wondered why I was single and so on...well I don't know, the universe works in weird ways.

I don't know much about Turkey but maybe there's some cities or communities where it is better for gay couples... like for instance San Francisco, California is known to be more socially acceptable of gay couples than say... Tuscaloosa, Alabama.

it actually is like climbing the Everest Europe is really tought to get into it. I have some other things. I'm not saying I have to end up in a marriage, but I didnt even have a bf for all my life. I crushed with someone before. I know how it feels and I know how destroying it can be. Yes, there are some cities better than some other places. but it' not much free.

[Bookworm]

I wouldn't give up on the possibility of you ever finding love. You are too young with so much experiences ahead of you to be thinking like that.

It may feel bleak for you at the moment, but I'd start exploring all your options. You may need to look into the possibility of moving at some point to one of Turkey's larger, more cosmopolitan cities, probably in the west of the country closer to the European boundary where there may be more exposure to western culture?
Investigate whether you could potentially move via employment opportunities in certain places, or possibly higher educational studies?

I transported myself hundreds of miles when I was younger, to escape a very rural location and closed-minded community. I had to be patient and it took a while, applying to various Colleges and Universities, but it paid off for me in the end. You just need to keep your dreams alive.

[RomanticMan]

I wouldn't give up on the possibility of you ever finding love. You are too young with so much experiences ahead of you to be thinking like that.

It may feel bleak for you at the moment, but I'd start exploring all your options. You may need to look into the possibility of moving at some point to one of Turkey's larger, more cosmopolitan cities, probably in the west of the country closer to the European boundary where there may be more exposure to western culture?
Investigate whether you could potentially move via employment opportunities in certain places, or possibly higher educational studies?

I transported myself hundreds of miles when I was younger, to escape a very rural location and closed-minded community. I had to be patient and it took a while, applying to various Colleges and Universities, but it paid off for me in the end. You just need to keep your dreams alive.

I checked every possibility but I dont have any chance to get into EU countries.ı think I'll think of other countries but I even have to be careful for the worst option. and even if i move to another country, that doesnt mean I'll find a lover like i told in the topic. I hope all will be okay, but I'm losing my hopes day by day.

and I can think of moving to huge cities in Turkey after my graduation. I just hope a miracle would happen.

[RomanticMan]

I think I couldnt afford collage in another country and it's just one year for my graduation. I think of moving to İstanbul maybe.