Struggling

[Themaster154]

Okay I'm a nearly 18 year old male and I'm in a bit of a pickle when i was 13 i noticed i was attracted to guys and I'm 17 now I'm I'm scared i don't know who i am anymore. I noticed guys more when i was around 13 it made m happy and feel right it made me feel that's who i am and I'm 17 now and i don't know anymore i feel like my attraction is fading and that I'm turning straight and I'm scared i don't know who i am I still like guys and there body's and cocks but I'm scared that's going to fade and somebody said it doesn't matter what porn you watch or what you think about I'm just scared I'm going straight.okay well i haven't had sex or anything yet but i remember at 13 looking at pon and focusing more on the guys and there cocks and that made me feel like me that it was right and i just loved the feelings. I dont feel like im not gay but i dont feel like i did back then and i dont get excited about vaginas to me its just ahole and boobs are bobs they dont get me excited and i have seen straight porn but i dont get into it when wanking like it doesn't peak my interest but i'm getting thoughts and images in my head of women and i dont want them like i have no desire to date them or have sex with them is this happening becuase im watching straight porn like im very open minded but i'm scared i'm turning straight. ANY HELP PLEASE

[IanSaysHi]

Okay I know we all have you advice on the above before; what I said then hasn't changed.

However there is something you could try for a bit - go cold turkey on the porn. You may find you just need a break from porn itself. Porn is enjoyed by a lot of us but sometimes you can overdo it. I mean just search for 'side effects of porn' and stuff like this come up:
http://www.yourtango.com/experts/sinclai...-much-porn

Again, I have to stress I am not anti-porn. However it may be worthwhile just taking a break from it for a while, and seeing if this helps at all. Focus more on trying to date or have sex with actual, real guys. Even if you're not watching that much porn, are you actively seeking to have an actual relationship or sex with a guy? You could be spending all this time worrying but you're not actually allowing your body to tell you what it enjoys! Go experience something, even if it's just a snog!! The rest will follow.

[Zen]

Okay I know we all have you advice on the above before; what I said then hasn't changed.

However there is something you could try for a bit - go cold turkey on the porn. You may find you just need a break from porn itself. Porn is enjoyed by a lot of us but sometimes you can overdo it. I mean just search for 'side effects of porn' and stuff like this come up:
http://www.yourtango.com/experts/sinclai...-much-porn

Again, I have to stress I am not anti-porn. However it may be worthwhile just taking a break from it for a while, and seeing if this helps at all. Focus more on trying to date or have sex with actual, real guys. Even if you're not watching that much porn, are you actively seeking to have an actual relationship or sex with a guy? You could be spending all this time worrying but you're not actually allowing your body to tell you what it enjoys! Go experience something, even if it's just a snog!! The rest will follow.

Great advice well put! :-)

[Darius]

Would it really be so terrible if you turn out to be straight?

[Camfer]

When you find the right person you want to have sex with and you are ready, it will happen. There's no rush. You're doing too much thinking now. It's like imagining the taste of a food you've never tasted. When you taste it, you will know.