04-19-2017, 01:47 PM
Hello everyone. So my name is Dan. I live in The South West of England and I could really do with some advice and help, if possible. So my story. At 16, I had an experience with a lad. Up until this, I would have said I had no attraction to any guys at all. The experience for me was, well, mindblowing. It was something that I really enjoyed. I am 32 now, so its been 16 years since it happened. At the time, I passed it off as just a one off. The whole thing with the lad kind of just happened. Afterwards I carried on with life as normal. I had relationships with women. I had a long term relationship with a girl, we have a son together but we split up in 2009. I have been single since then. The past 8 years have been torture, in particular this last 3 years.
You see, I started a job back in 2011, I'm not there anymore but there was a guy I worked with that I found myself starting to fancy. I would say flirty things and he would flirt back. I found myself becoming more and more attracted to men. I would always flashback to what happened at 16 and really want to feel that feeling I had back then. I also think that experience has made it easier for me to come to terms with the attraction towards men I had started to have. They are not just sexual attractions either. I find myself talking to guys and find myself attracted to them, its difficult to describe. I'm not in denial about anything, deep down I know exactly who I am. Anyway, 3 years ago I decided to take the plunge and download grindr to try and meet men. This is where I need advice. I've downloaded and deleted grindr more times than I care to share about. The very first message I had on grindr was from a guy describing in very intricate detail what he wanted us to do. It seemed every other message was a dick pic or someone wanting sex and it put me right off. Take that and mix it with me being a very anxious and nervous person in general, anyway and yeah. I was just wondering if anyone could help with advice and guidance with meeting men for someone who is not out yet and someone who is extremely nervous.
Thank you for reading and I appreciate any feedback that I may get
Dan
You see, I started a job back in 2011, I'm not there anymore but there was a guy I worked with that I found myself starting to fancy. I would say flirty things and he would flirt back. I found myself becoming more and more attracted to men. I would always flashback to what happened at 16 and really want to feel that feeling I had back then. I also think that experience has made it easier for me to come to terms with the attraction towards men I had started to have. They are not just sexual attractions either. I find myself talking to guys and find myself attracted to them, its difficult to describe. I'm not in denial about anything, deep down I know exactly who I am. Anyway, 3 years ago I decided to take the plunge and download grindr to try and meet men. This is where I need advice. I've downloaded and deleted grindr more times than I care to share about. The very first message I had on grindr was from a guy describing in very intricate detail what he wanted us to do. It seemed every other message was a dick pic or someone wanting sex and it put me right off. Take that and mix it with me being a very anxious and nervous person in general, anyway and yeah. I was just wondering if anyone could help with advice and guidance with meeting men for someone who is not out yet and someone who is extremely nervous.
Thank you for reading and I appreciate any feedback that I may get
Dan