Opinions .... ?

[mr_21]

Wondering what others have to say.

When i first met my partner we as like rumping rabbits, we could not get enough sex. Yet 2 months after being together it went quite dead.

Ever since sex is very boring, althou there is a 17 year age gap to me that makes no difference.

I am a very young horny devil.

I mean i could have sex 7 times a day. Reason why i say seven is we used to have it 7 times a day when we first met.

Althou i dont expect to do it that much now obviously but curious to know who has been in realtionship did your sex with your partner slow down etc?

I just feel i am not getting enough, i am lucky to get it twice a week, then it like i got to make the effort and not far off ask for it and it usually crap, no effort from partner at all. It like i try and be romantic get him going but he seems to be not horny.

pees me off, it should be natural, yet my partner says "Sex is not everything in a relationship" althou i understand that i tell him "Yes but sex is part of a relationship".

It like, he has to realise i am still only 21 whilst he is 37, i love him to bits and he says same about me but he may have had his fun but i have not and being young and him being my first and hopeffully last partner i think he should make more of an effort.

Interesting to here about your experiences and do you have the same problem or similar ?

[Lightshade]

That's always the problem if one partner made his experiences and the other didn't

But you say YOU need sex YOU want more YOU could have 24/7 etc. etc. ...


Ever thought about him? Maybe he doesn't want it so often. A relationship is about taking and giving. Maybe he is just not in the mood right now. A stressful job, warm weather... 2 years ago, I had nearly the whole summer no sex, because it was too hot and we both had too much stress....

You are just a few months together, it will settle down and you will both have enough sex mile:

[mr_21]

That's always the problem if one partner made his experiences and the other didn't

But you say YOU need sex YOU want more YOU could have 24/7 etc. etc. ...


Ever thought about him? Maybe he doesn't want it so often. A relationship is about taking and giving. Maybe he is just not in the mood right now. A stressful job, warm weather... 2 years ago, I had nearly the whole summer no sex, because it was too hot and we both had too much stress....

You are just a few months together, it will settle down and you will both have enough sex mile:

mmm, we been together nearly 5 years coming up in September.

2 months after our realtionship since then it never been the same. I mean i do think of what he thinks but i think i have been patient enough nearly 5 years for something different to happen.

for example, i don't want to sound crude or anything but i get nothing apart from being w***ed, i dont give him anymore as well i dont know he never seems to want to talk about it, i give him a blowjob get on top of him and a quick rub etc but to him thats satisfactory, i mean what do i get a blowjob and that is it. I try and do anything to help improve our sex life, basically i try to make an effort, be patient etc and basically it feels like tuff, deal with it.

I would not want anyone else, but because of lack of sex and what we do it makes me think whether i should go elsewhere, althou i know i would not do that as i am not that type of person but it does cross my mind.

[Lightshade]

Ah okay. Then I got that wrong. 5 years already...:eek:

Try to talk to him. Even if he doesn't want to. If you're unhappy he should talk with you about that. At last if he loves you

Maybe you can find together a solution acceptable for both of you mile:

[mr_21]

Thanks,

I hope so.... It getting boring now....

I dont think it will thou,

when i do mention it or try to talk to him about it see how he feels etc and what he would be happy with etc he just dont take notice and not bothered in listening.

Just always a silly excuse.

Thanks

[marshlander]

If what you have described is really how it is something is wrong. A lot of a relationship is about thinking what your partner needs and maybe sacrificing a little of your own needs for him. This, however, only works if the traffic is two-way.

It sounds like you've been very patient, although we only have your side of the story. If he can't talk to you directly, perhaps the intervention or mediation of a trusted third party, or better still some couples counselling might help. He's at an age where hormone levels might be starting to flag, where work can get on top of everything else ... oh all sorts of stuff could be happening.

Good luck.

[mr_21]

Yeah, i understand.

But what i am saying is genuine and honest.

I guess i will put up with it.

*sigh*

[marshlander]

That's not what I'm saying. Putting up with something is not the same as mutual sacrifice. You need to sort this and discussion is the only way, even if it does prove time-consuming and painful. You are talking about ingrained behaviour and response here, I think. It won't get better if you both try to ignore the problem. Do you have the opportunity to get away from the phone, the computer and all other responsibilities for a couple of days?

[mr_21]

mmm yes i do.

I have many times before.

I just think it hormones are not as spruce as they was.

As he good otherwise, no relationship problems or anything...

I think he could just make more of an effort.

[marshlander]

That's a lot of first-person singular pronouns ...

Sorry, maybe I should have written that differently ie "Do you BOTH have the opportunity to get away from the phone, the computer and all other responsibilities for a couple of days?"

Best of luck. It all sounds very difficult.