Why is the gay community so sexual?

[Alvin]

How about the "all inclusive" version I've seen a couple times 'LGBTQQIP2SAA'
Lesbian, Gay, Bi, Queer, Questioning, Intersex, Pansexual, Two-Spirit, Asexual, Allied

The Asexual community has a list of sub-sets too:
* Asexual (no sexual attraction to anyone)
* Demisexual (no sexual attraction unless they form an emotional connection with someone)
* Graysexual (Like bi which falls somewhere between gay and straight, Gray falls somewhere between Sexual and Asexual)

It should also be noted that 'Sexual Orientation' and 'Romantic Orientation' are 2 different things, and romantic like sexual, romantic has its own attractions (and they do not necessarily always match the sexual attraction of someone):
* Aromantic (not romantically attracted to anyone )
* Heteroromantic ( romantically attracted to the opposite sex)
* Homoromantic ( romantically attracted to the same sex)
* Biromantic ( romantically attracted to both sexes, not necessarily equally)
* Grayromantic (somewhat romantic)
* Panromantic ( Would be the romantic equivalent of Pansexual which I'll have to google sometime for the meaning of)

All that might be words/terms overload or some people? .lol.?

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I know it varies greatly from city to city, but I've been to pride festivals multiple times, and the majority of the people there are well behaved, and fairly normal appearing/acting.

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On the original subject:
Was this a chain restaurant? or just a individual place?
If its one of the big national chains, I think I'd send a complaint to their corporate office.

Now you make me wanna sing:

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[IndividuellaUni]

Hmmm, sounds familiar to me....

Just recently, I was cruised and stalked by a guy while at work. This includes even following me to around the area where my car is. And talk about sketchy, and leaving me feel like nothing more than a piece of meat....

In the end, I confronted a friend who was running this event I was working at. The stalker I was talking about is also a friend of my friend. Needless to say, this "friend" and I have not spoken since.

Goes to show you, those who are that forward about wanting to turn a trick will deceive whomever when their behavior gets called out.

And my opinion on men has been, most are overtly sexual, and honestly, I feel like that in order for me to be friends with another Gay man is to have sex with them. Some days I shake my head. Others it makes me feel like I'm back in high school.

I'm happier as my own person, and not have to rely on sleeping around to gain friends.

[deephiance]

[MENTION=24118]deephiance[/MENTION] we didnt even provocatively I was wearing a flamingo shirt and slacks and so was he.

I'm so sorry if you thought I was implying that, I was actually just using an example of excuses men make to blame the victim.

You guys absolutely did nothing to warrant the treatment that you got.

[Miles]

Y'all dress straighter than some of the straight folks I know. Sound like they were a bunch of horny ass buttpokers who should fuck each other and leave y'all well enough the fuck alone

[Anonymous]

[MENTION=24118]deephiance[/MENTION] no hay problema

Im not even mad at those guys. Ive been doing research and wracking my brain to answer that question 'why is the gay community so overtly sexual?'. CONDITIONING, think about it, younger men like my self have been conditioned by our culture to believe that gay men as a rule are over the top, flamboyant, fashionable, twinks, sissies who love shopping. So many people including myself thinks of gay culture as in your face parades, clubbing, taking recreational drugs, and blowing hot random's.

When i first realized I was gay in my teens, the only source I had to draw on was 'Queer as Folk and The Birdcage', I didnt know any gay people and we shared a computer at my house so I was scared to research about being gay because of search histories might arouse suspicion. Thats where I learned my first gay things, and they put forward a very stereotypical perception of gay men. As a teen I didnt know any better and I thought thats what being gay was like.

I think maybe some guys model themselves on the stereotypes because they only see gays depicted in this way. Maybe the guys at the restaurant modeled themselves after a stereotype without knowing better. Television and movies do so much to influence our behavior especially as children.

Even to this day gay men are used as comedy fodder, the fat guy in Mean Girls, Fancy pants in School of Rock, Ray in Archer, Jack in Will and Grace. Gay men are just a punch line for heterosexuals. There arent enough gay positive role models. Its blackface for gays, and its distasteful.

[MENTION=12402]Miles[/MENTION] My boyfriend and I were dressed for Miami but in New Jersey, so maybe we did dress a little gay

[NativeSon]

^ No, you're mad at and anonymously complaining to a group of strangers who happen to be gay, or gay friendly, or other? Why the hell aren't you complaining to the establishment that allegedly treated you so shabbily? You're okay with this happening to unsuspecting others? This makes no sense to me.

[princealbertofb]

I noticed the term "LGBTQA", which reminded me of what my professor said: "So many abbreviations going on here. One day we will have this queer alphabetical song."

They're more than abbreviations, [MENTION=24431]Alvin[/MENTION], they're actually just initials.

[princealbertofb]

From talking to other gay guys (most of whom I know only casual) it seems too many of them think sex is something that stops happening when you are in a relationship. They go for all the gusto before they settle down, assuming they ever do, and all too often tend to see other guys as outlets for their horniness.
How do you get them to see that sex in a relationship is a reality?

Good question, [MENTION=21957]Darius[/MENTION]. Probably this is also something to do wth education and changing the general mindset in society. We are sometimes cornered into our own boxes and the way the media and our societies portray or see us.

[Gideon]

I agree with some of the others here, that wasn't so much "sexual" as crass, rude and obnoxious. Absolutely lacking class and composure and was probably a drunken "prank" more than a legit offer. Some people just like attention and making others uncomfortable, and honestly with the description, it sounds more like they were trying to harass a couple of straight guys than hit on gay ones. But then, that's just me and if it had been -mine- they touched, blood would have spattered the food and fucked up everyone's dinner.

Interesting fact: I don't share well with others and someone besides me disrespecting Twist's personal space is NOT okay.

[Delishes]

Because

1- it is harder for gay people to find their lover(less people 7 percentage)thus when you hear gay word for a new friend,or a friend of your friend,he becomes a potential partner which is very desperate.

2-Most gay men had issues coming out(bullied,ashamed) and accepting themselves and some years passed with doing nothing but to overcome it,so the explosion of these years may change the lifestyle of that person.(lgbt oversexualized example for this)

3-You dont know how is it going to end with the guy you met at bar or anywhere if he is top or bottom or vers,it is much complicated then men and women thus it becomes an issue,which leads to oversexualized society

These are 3 main reasons for me