Hi there

[Justaguy]

Welcome baristajedi (I love the name!) It's great to have a woman around on the forum

[Darius]

Ha ha ha straight to the point


Well… if you *really* want to know….

I never really understood the excitement about male bodies, I mean, for obvious reasons, but I always found the penis fascinating… hahaha like science experiment level fascinating. Hmmm, you do this and they do that, huh, interesting. Honestly, that's what straight sex has been like for me, oh look at how he reacts to that, hmm, cool.

I'm not sure how much of this I'm supposed to be posting on this forum…..

Say whatever you want. No offense will be taken. As men who actually like the cock, we enjoy seeing what it does when we play with it, too. Even when it's our own we're playing with. They are endless fascination to us.
I'm very glad you and your ex are now on good terms.

[baristajedi]

Say whatever you want. No offense will be taken. As men who actually like the cock, we enjoy seeing what it does when we play with it, too. Even when it's our own we're playing with. They are endless fascination to us.
I'm very glad you and your ex are now on good terms.

I can imagine

[Zen]

Thanks for the welcome

I do feel much better now that I'm living my life more true to who I am and what I need. My girlfriend also has 2 boys, almost the same age as my daughter, and we're hoping to raise them all to feel more at home in themselves than we did growing up, and to show them the normalcy of our relationship, as well as all sorts of relationships, sexuality, and identities. It's really wonderful to see the openness that kids have… my daughter already tells me she hopes she can have two mummies, and she wants me to marry a woman (this came out of some conversations about different families and relationships).

We actually have a really amazing lgbt support system in our city, and I'm sure in the future, we'll be taking the kids to the rainbow families group…. I'm hoping we can build a great support system for them.

I don't mind male beauty threads, ha I won't be adding or viewing them much I'm sure but why wouldn't you guys want to post about beautiful men? That's to be expected… I won't bore you all with my female crushes, ha. No one here wants to see them lol

Hey Baristajedi,

That's really good to hear that everything is going well with the kids! And that you have the support locally too! I'm still not at the forming a relationship with a guy stage just yet. Must admit it's the impact on my kids that makes me most apprehensive, not so much for them but those around- I'm an ex Londoner living in rural cornwall. Some people locally know why my wife and I have split(people my wife trusts) but others don't. If I find a boyfriend I can see it being "the talk of the town"- for a while anyway!


I don't mind hearing about your crushes, I'm still Bi enough to appreciate them haha! Is Alison Hannigan one by any chance? I loved her in Buffy- I was always quirky like that, everyone used to go on about Buffy, I liked the cute redhead! Haha! Although Spike was sexy in a punk kind of way, and Giles in a bookish kind of way. Hmm looking back think that's the difference cute versus sexy!

[Zen]

Lol Your words make me start to feel penis is interesting and cute. Haha!

Aww cute! Haha! ;-)

[seeking]

A late welcome baristajedi ! It's nice to read your story and your responses, they are all interesting. Hope you like it here

[princealbertofb]

Haha I hope that's no offence to anyone!!! That's just my experience as a lesbian having sex with a man....

You can post as much as you like... it's entertaining and not willfully nasty to anyone. Post away.

[Alvin]

Hi again

Being with a woman feels very different to me than being with a man. It feels more natural, complete...I have more desire, warmth, emotional pull, emotional openness. We communicate better, understand each other better, we're more honest. I feel we see and admire each other as more full people than I've felt with a male/female relationship. We admire each other's strength, see and appreciate each other's beauty in a more substantial way than men seem to with me in the past. Being with a man always felt like there were a lot of games as well.

I agree with what you say about gender....so much if it comes from the way culture tells us we should see gender. Do you feel on some level that you don't fit into society's definition of gender?

I think sexuality for some is fluid; perhaps you have some romantic feelings for this girl? Then again, maybe there is just a lot of emotional chemistry and intimacy, but no sexual interest. I say embrace it, just enjoy it

In terms of my appearance, I can add a pic, I don't mind (if I can figure out how to) - my hair is my natural colour. But I've dyed it many times!

I LOVE ellen

What celebrities do oh admire? Are there any gay male celebrities you identify with?



Gonna try for a pic.... maybe need to attach it as a file, not sure it will work...

Hi, baristajedi. How do you enjoy this forum so far? Sorry for the reaaaaaaaaaaally delayed reply as I was having some ups and downs. Shit happens.

I was taunted (not bullied for sure) by a few of my classmates back in middle school, where they made fun of me since I was not that masculine. I wouldn't hold grudge against any of them when I looked back, for we all are brainwashed by the idea that men should be blah blah blah.. We are all victims of this naturalized sexual and gender regime. Now I tend to believe that all men are of both sexes (maybe more than just two as i don't want to fall into binary opposition). This reminds me of a quote from The Heart Is a Lonely Hunter, saying that.

By nature all people are of both sexes. So that marriage and the bed is not all by any means. The proof? Real youth and old age. Because often old men’s voices grow high and reedy and they take on a mincing walk. And old women sometimes grow fat and their voices get rough and deep and they grow dark little mustaches.

What do you think of this one?

Speaking of gay male celebrities, I can't really think of one right now. Let me think... hum... Tim Cook? LOL. I am just a big Apple fanboy.



I like you haircut. It looks fresh.

[Dagger]

Hi, pleased to meetcha!

[baristajedi]

Hi! Sorry for disappearing for a bit, things have been a bit busy lately.

Hey Baristajedi,

That's really good to hear that everything is going well with the kids! And that you have the support locally too! I'm still not at the forming a relationship with a guy stage just yet. Must admit it's the impact on my kids that makes me most apprehensive, not so much for them but those around- I'm an ex Londoner living in rural cornwall. Some people locally know why my wife and I have split(people my wife trusts) but others don't. If I find a boyfriend I can see it being "the talk of the town"- for a while anyway!


I don't mind hearing about your crushes, I'm still Bi enough to appreciate them haha! Is Alison Hannigan one by any chance? I loved her in Buffy- I was always quirky like that, everyone used to go on about Buffy, I liked the cute redhead! Haha! Although Spike was sexy in a punk kind of way, and Giles in a bookish kind of way. Hmm looking back think that's the difference cute versus sexy!

Hi Zen!

I understand your hesitance for your kids, given the views of the people who live around you. Kids themselves, as I'm sure you know are pretty open to accepting things, but the people near them can really give them a hard time.

That said, it sounds like for you, it's more of a question of *when* you will have a partner, not *if*, so perhaps it can start with introducing them early to accepting same sex relationships, and if you worry about their peers, you can also introduce some ideas about others viewing things differently and having trouble accepting different relationships. What are the ages of your kids? I think you've said, I'm sorry my memory on that is fuzzy!

With my daughter, I have done a little of both of those things, but in terms of peer pressure, it was more about dealing with pressure about gender, because she was getting bullied about gender issues (she's only 4! I couldn't believe that was already happening).

With my daughter - I talked to her about it by showing her my pride flag just as a start. I showed it to her and said, this is really important to mommy, because it means that it's ok for anyone to love anyone- women can love women, men can love men. I asked her did you know women can marry women/men can marry men? Etc. Once we were walking along and saw a family with two dads. I said, hey look sweetie, that little girl has 2 daddies. She was like - I want 2 daddies! Since then I've talked a lot with her about these things. She is so relaxed about it. And now she knows I have a girlfriend, we love eachother, etc.

In terms of dealing with peer pressure - with her it was about boys picking on her for liking "boy shows", "boy games", etc. I have had lots of conversations about how girls (and boys) can like whatever they want but not everyone agrees. We talked about how to respond to people pressuring her or bullying her, I praised her for standing up for herself and reminded her how much I support her. This can be a good thing for kids to learn no matter how likely it is for them to be bullied.


About crushes, hmmm I love strong women. I find women with boldness and passion really sexy. I also like quirky and brainy women too. I like Gina Torres, Gina Rodriguez… feisty and beautiful. I do have a thing for Alyson Hanigan But I love all the women from Buffy, Buffy herself, Tara and Anya. They each have their own type of beauty but also such well-rounded characters with a lot of depth and strength…

Good call on Spike and Giles. I love them! If I were into guys, I'd go for them too!