It would not bother me, however i would worry that i was over sympathetic and patronising. I think i would be over worried and would just get myself upset.
![[-]](https://gayspeak.com/images/duende_v3_local/collapse.png)
•
My partner has a really bad stutter and it was never a deterent for me in dating him. Well, it was a bit awkward to talk about at first, and it took me a bit longer to gain his trust so that he opened up and talked without feeling self conscious. However, it seemed to be more of a problem to others around me (family , friends, etc) because it made them feel uncomfortable. He and I have been together two years now and most times I don't even hear the stutter. His stutter is just part of who he is as a person, and I love every aspect of him.
The Antagonist
•
That's a shame that guys are afraid or intimidated by disabled persons. It really depends on where the guys are from. See in New York, disabled people are treated like everyone else. New York is a great state. My last partner has your disability. I thought he was perfect to me. Unfortunately, he was from a state that was not as good as NY when it comes to disabled persons.
•
i got somtimes problem of talking.aswel. it is if good if trited disabled like normal. i thing it is some hardthings a bout if you gayman who was disabled. so it is better if peple said you normle . the worst thing a bout disabled is peple not listin to you i think.
•
I think if you are not young, nice and beautiful you have a problem with the "normally gay scene"... and thats very sad for my opinion. Instead to build up a strong, high social community with much better possibilitys then other "groups" have... "we" separate by view, hear .. or something superficial ever.... years ago I have talked to some blind and some deaf gay people ... and it was very sad that they meant to have no chance to get a boyfriend or something like a family life because they feel separated and mostly unwanted.... its a shame !
What should count is the human being... not if you stutter, need some glasses or have really hard limitations or whatever.
•
From what I've seen, people who rely on assistance from a carer or helper are pretty much subject to the whims of luck. Carer jobs are notoriously badly paid and invite applications from people who may not see inclusion on the grounds of sexual orientation as a priority. It's far easier to treat all people as one-size fits all, especially when they don't have much language to advocate for themselves. Gay and lesbian men and women are all but invisible in our care system. :mad:
•
Great question Kabooby,
I am quite certain that most people Heterosexual, Bisexual, or Homosexual alike all feel that dating someone who has a handicap is a bit daunting, and the thought of altering their lives to be empathetically accomodating for a handicap person is tedious and scary. However ther are some people that are mature sufficiently to look beyond the heavy investment that may come with dating a handicap person. I for one, am not mature sufficiently to handle it. I am someone that hates responsibility, very lazy, and completely indifferent at times. I also have a tendency to hibernate, and this is certainly a terrible trait to have when caring and loving a handicapped individual.
But, I am aware that handicaps are not lepers; conversely I am all too aware of this fact. I see them as delicate flowers that should be cared for constantly, so that they may blossom beautifully. I am inherently selfish to ever accomodate to this capacity.
This is a very sensitive subject, I feel badly for my truths.
•
Dating a Disabled Adult Male
