caught between 2 men

[ConradTroy]

right i need help. ive had a crush on my male friend for a while. he's is gay as well bt he's never shown any interest in becoming more than friends. i accepted that and i didn't want to ruin out friendship by trying something cos he's such a cool guy and a great friend. so i hooked up with another guy. we r just starting to get 2 know each other and start 2 have a relationship.
the problem is, my friend that i have a crush on kissed me and said he thinks he has feelings for me. i reli like both these guys. i did make a list of the pros and cons of each guy bt that didnt help me at all.
the first guy is great, funny, cute, we have a lot in common and i wld love to have a relationship with him bt i wld hate for it not 2 work out an i lose a gud friendship.
the second guy is great 2. we dnt have as much in common bt that makes it more interesting and he does a lot of extreme sports like skydiving and water rafting plus he is hot.
im torn between these 2 guys. i cnt decide wot i shld do. i like they both a lot. please help!

[CurtCB]

I can't tell you which one to pick. Honestly I'd go for the hottest one, but I am in a vain and shallow mood and not really interested in a serious relationship.
You are probably better off pursuing your friend. You have feelings for him and that is necessary for a solid lasting relationship.
Be careful if you decide to see them both for the time being. You are risking losing them unless you are honest with each of them about the other.

[matty7]

they both sound great guys so i cant say which one is best for you..

only thing i can think of is although you state the hot guy does extreme sports like sky diving etc i just wonder if your goin to be watchin him do all these great things from the sidelines and not joining in which i suppose a relationship should include, the other guy has your same interests so your gonna be happy doin the same things together - its a hard choice mate so good luck and i hope your happy whoever you decide to go with

[adzie]

You've come to accept your friend as a friend. Keep it that way, this new guy sounds like he could have a lot to offer, specially lots of time together, such as going skydiving etc. I would love that. Adds a lot of excitment to the relationship.

You need to make sure you resist temptation and make sure your friend knows that you've come to terms with being friends and don't want to risk the friendship, also explain you've found someone you really like.

If he's a true friend, he'll understand

[marshlander]

Again, I think the key is honesty. Make sure everyone knows where they stand and one hopes there would be no nasty repercussions.

On the other hand you could take the risk of running two lives ... that never worked for me. I tried it for many years and it made me unwell.

Good luck.

[peterinmalaga]

Forget lists, throw reason to the winds and go with your instincts. You know who you like best. As Marshlander says, be honest with both of them and be thoughtful and nice to both. But if the "loser" ends up hating you, don't be surprised. If you genuinely are in a quandry, choose the one with the bigger dick!

[ConradTroy]

thanks everyone for ure advice. i had a long talk with both of them and in the end i choose the second guy. my friend and i did talk about wot wld happen if we took our relationship further bt in the end we both agreed that it wld b the wrong thing 2 do. we r such gud friends and we both dont want 2 spoil it.
i told the second guy about wot happened and wot the situation now was. he understood and he was happy that i choose him. he makes life so exciting. he's teaching me how 2 do stuff. i tried surfing for the first time today. wasn't very gud at it bt i had so much fun. we r going sky diving nxt week, im terrified of doing that bt he's going 2 b there so it's not as bad. i think i made the right choice. i thought about it. if it doesn't work out i cld always float the idea of a threesome, i mean u only live once right? lol.

once thanks everyone!

[vk luis]

pick the guy with a bigger cock

[sox-and-the-city]

Don't suppose you could just juggle or go for some kind of polyamory situation until you sort your head out ad decide which one you want??

Two controversial options, but nevertheless ones which you want to consider...