OUCh, sex hurts

[gaygay33]

I am in so much pain:eek:
I am not a slut of anything but I hooked up with someone earlier.

First, I wish I was a top but I just don't feel right. Anyways, so I hooked up with this guy and his cock was big and thick. Usually, i just like to suck dick, but I went further and let him fuck me (with a condom).

I've done anal before. The first time I was really young, (11), the second time when I was around 21, 22 and maybe three more times. So overall I had intercourse with a guy about 9-10 times if even that.

It must have been 4 or more years since the last time. It hurts every time. I am still in pain and it was about 5 hours ago. He knew I was in pain and did it even harder:confused:

Right now I feel like someone is still banging me. Does this happen to anyone and how do you control it?

[fredv3b]

Sorry for pointing out the obvious, but it might be an idea to do it with someone who is going to be a bit gentler with you.

[libertylove4]

[COLOR="Navy"]Okay here is how I see it:
1. Just because you hooked up with someone doesn't make you a slut, it makes you a normal human being. mile:
2. The issue here isn't the sex per say, it's the fact that your sex partner just pounded away without any thought of your comfort. Dump the douchebag and find a guy who will work with you and go slowly so that you can get more comfortable. Anal sex is great, you just need time to adjust and a partner with compassion and patience.
3. Okay a little of topic, but the first time you had anal was at 11??? [/COLOR]

[gaygay33]

Thanks,
I still feel slutty even though you said not to. It was a random hookup so I don't know him but we did use a condom. I've had sex without a condom, one time it wasn't by choice and there was nothing I could do.

The other time it was with my ex-bf and he got me high and drunk and that hurt like hell too, when he did it.

I am finally not hurting from it. I hope some day it will be with someone I care about. But dam now I know why some people scream during sex.

yes i was 11 the first time i had actual intercourse and at 8 was the first time i experienced other stuff but it was 11 when i truly lost my virginity

i sometimes wonder if that's why i feel so guilty after having sex. Sex is supposed to be good, According to my shrink, because I started at such a young age I was traumatized but that's a whole different issue.

The pain keeps coming back, I think my butt is still recovering. I saw in a chat room how someone said they were going to screw someone and they wouldn't be able to walk for a few days, now I really believe it. I can walk lol, but i think if he went any harder, i'd be hiding for a few days

[fredv3b]

A couple, of many, advantages to sex within a relationship are that, hopefully, he's a nice guy who wouldn't want to cause you any pain and, secondly even if he wasn't a nice guy, he'd want to make sure you were willing to do it again the next time you were together.

[gaygay33]

Yeah I need to find a guy like that. I wonder if they really exist. My first boyfriend was really rough in bed that's why I was scared to have sex with him. Don't they know that big ones hurt? But I like big ones, don't we all?

I take a medication that makes me really want sex. It's not viagra or anything like that, nor is it designed to make you like sex. It's an opiate that I take every day for opiate dependency. Yeah I am just wondering how this stuff works (subutex) but it really makes me want it all the time.

[marshlander]

Yeah I need to find a guy like that. I wonder if they really exist ...

They do.

[Steven]

3. Okay a little of topic, but the first time you had anal was at 11???

mine was in year 6...think that makes me like 12 or something. Lol I didn't know what I was doing though.

On topic, if he cared for you he would wait.

Just tell a lad in future, wait for a minute while I can get used to the feeling, if you don't, it could really hurt + make you bleed...or either snap his condom and slit his dick, what a shame! xx

[fredv3b]

Yeah I need to find a guy like that. I wonder if they really exist.

I second Marshy, they do. However, even if your guy ain't a nice one, his simple sexual self-interest should make him want you to enjoy sex, so you will want to do it again, soon. A guy you hook-up with has little hope of it happening again soon anyway, so he doesn't have that incentive to make sure you enjoy it.

[peterinmalaga]

Hope this doesn't sound like I'm not taking you seriously but here are my top tips for enjoying taking it.
If you like it, try to get more practice. Use a dildo, if you don't have a real cock handy!
Ask him to finger your hole a bit first.
Tell him to start off slow and tell him you mean it.
Get yourself in the right mood. Tell yourself you like a LITTLE pain and that once you have given him the go-ahead, he has the right to do just that. Try to enjoy being dominated. Well, some people like it rough. What I mean is, it helps to be passive in attitude as well as in your sexual role.
A little alcohol helps but don't get legless.
You can try a little pain killer, I mean the stuff they put on piles (I can't spell hemorroids.....) Ice cubes might also have the same effect. Am I kinky or what?
Try to enjoy being a slut. I don't mean that you are a slut. I just mean that you should enjoy sex. Shame is something we are taught. Try to unravel all that stupid education.
Personally I can think of nothing better than feeling permanently horny! But I suppose you can get tired of anything.