I'm with ottawaguy and slipknot on this. You are a bit young to be concerned with this, but I remember being that age and thinking that no one knew what I felt and bellieved. If you two want to wait for each, thats fine, but I really don't think you are cheating on someone who you aren't truly together with. Just remember that you are in the most volitile years of change in your life, things will probably seem much different a year from now, let alone 7 or 8. But if you two think you can weather this, then go for it.
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My suggestion, young one, would be that you come out of that anonymous state and become one of the many members here. As we get to know you a little better, we'll be able to support you and your online friendships / relationships with more adequate information and advice. You mentioned that your parents and your best friend know about you being gay? That's a good thing. How did they take it? What advice do they give you about this online relationship?
I agree with many here that you are young enough to change over the next few years and also that you have to be careful not to believe everything you see on the Internet. Unless you've met your 'friend' in person, it'll be hard to tell if he really is 11 and such a good friend as you say. Remember that whatever freedom you give him ought to be the same freedom you enjoy. If you think you can stay faithful to him for all those years, well, so be it. If you find it difficult to uphold, it won't be surprising, but give yourself the freedom to explore while you still can, ie in your youth.
Good luck with whatever you decide to do. And I hope one day to  you officially to GaySpeak
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Sorry guys didn't mean to be jerky, I tend speak to kids the same way I talk to adults.
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TimmyThink Wrote:Sorry guys didn't mean to be jerky, I tend speak to kids the same way I talk to adults.
You said what you thought needed to be said. I'm sure our Anonymous will take it with the pinch of humour that was intended...  mile::biggrin:
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Thanks guys. I guess you're right. And the fact that feelings change all the time, perhaps we'll never meet in real life... But I suppose while I'm with him.... I can make the best of what we have right now. Just, maybe, it shouldn't be as serious as I thought. I think that's alright, right?
And as for coming out, princealbertofb, I've come out to my parents and, usually, your parents accept it because they know you are who you are and they've grown wiser... And my best friend is a girl so... I find usually girls are more accepting than guys... So if I do tell anyone else, maybe I should wait until I'm 100% certain I'm gay. I think I am... I'm attracted to guys, I've had an experience with a guy... And I like it... But I'll give it a few more years, just in case... mile:
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darkblizzard97 Wrote:Thanks guys. I guess you're right. And the fact that feelings change all the time, perhaps we'll never meet in real life... But I suppose while I'm with him.... I can make the best of what we have right now. Just, maybe, it shouldn't be as serious as I thought. I think that's alright, right?
And as for coming out, princealbertofb, I've come out to my parents and, usually, your parents accept it because they know you are who you are and they've grown wiser... And my best friend is a girl so... I find usually girls are more accepting than guys... So if I do tell anyone else, maybe I should wait until I'm 100% certain I'm gay. I think I am... I'm attracted to guys, I've had an experience with a guy... And I like it... But I'll give it a few more years, just in case... mile:
Sounds amazingly smart to me! :]]
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Hello Darkblizzard, and OFFICIAL to the site. It's nice to talk to someone with a name.
Yes making the best of what you have is the right way to go about it. After all there is nothing to say that your virtual friendship won't develop into a real life friendship or relationship some day. Maybe he needs your help and support just the way you need his right now. So give him what you can. Some tenderness, some loving, some care.
As for liking guys, you are maybe right. Lots of us realised later in life that we were gay but it's something that started just around your age probably... not always recognised as a feeling because, depending on where you were born and raised and your environment, it was more or less easy to relate to such feelings... There weren't very many gay role models in my youth, for example. In your day and age, it's a more commonly accepted notion, so it's good that you can identify the nature of your feelings for people of the same sex. However, it is also true that many boys of your age will go through a stage of liking other boys but will then move on from that stage to liking girls better. So while staying open about a possible gay orientation, don't hesitate to try it out with girls if you feel you'd like to. In the same way, you ought to give your friend the same liberty to explore his sexuality.
Hope this helped.
PA
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This thread is like a Christmas miracle :biggrin:
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Thanks Slipknot mile: And yeah, princelabertofb, the world is constantly changing and nobody can tell where it's headed to... Some things will get better, some will get worse. I mean, homosexuality was considered a disease until 1973. So look how far we've come in those 37 years... Gay pride parades, Logo, support groups are popping up in schools (not in my county...), and people are getting more and more accepting :biggrin:
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I blame the media 
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