03-28-2011, 12:11 AM
So I've been seeing this guy off and on, and a while ago we decided to call it quits because we figured we didn't 'match' sexually. A month later, we've already started dating again. I really like this guy, alot. In fact, I've never been more interested in someone before.
We haven't done anything more than make out, but I'm really concerned about taking it to the next level... We both identify as 'bottom', but I'm definately willing to meet somewhere in the middle, infact, I'm at a point in my life where I feel like I would enjoy that. I'm just afraid we're gonna start getting really intense and I'll just go along with it, even if he doesn't reciprocate, but I feel like I really need that in a relationship, and that it is an important part of who I am sexually, and psychologically, too.
Also, I feel like I'm giving up a part of my identity... that I'm breaking some sacred rule or something. I don't know...
I have been looking for resources on this, and was wondering if anyone has any advice..? Should I bring this up now? If so, how? I'm so afraid of scaring this guy away, it suuuucks. How can I talk about this with him?
We haven't done anything more than make out, but I'm really concerned about taking it to the next level... We both identify as 'bottom', but I'm definately willing to meet somewhere in the middle, infact, I'm at a point in my life where I feel like I would enjoy that. I'm just afraid we're gonna start getting really intense and I'll just go along with it, even if he doesn't reciprocate, but I feel like I really need that in a relationship, and that it is an important part of who I am sexually, and psychologically, too.
Also, I feel like I'm giving up a part of my identity... that I'm breaking some sacred rule or something. I don't know...
I have been looking for resources on this, and was wondering if anyone has any advice..? Should I bring this up now? If so, how? I'm so afraid of scaring this guy away, it suuuucks. How can I talk about this with him?