my boyfriend is talking with his ex boyfriend

[zeon]

dont worry over it... If he has sex with his ex then you know to ditch the bitch if his with you and respects you then he will understand his ex is his friend not his lover hence the term... Ex id raTHER know my ex talks to his ex than not know least it wouldnt be a shock

[TheDerek]

hi guys
i really need your advice
my boyfriend is now friend with his ex and this really bother me
cauze he told me that there star having sex since they were 14 all the way to 20 or 21 years old
weve been together for 6 years now and he just start talking to him like 5 days ago
emails, text messages, facebook and phone calls
i told him that i dont like that and he say that he is one of his best friends
so
should i be worry ?
also he no w delete all the messages and emails and chat logs

I agree somewhat with the other posters. My boyfriend is friends with some of his exes and stuff. It doesnt bother me. What would, however, is if he randomly started talking to one 5+ years after they broke up and was deleting messages. From the title alone, I would say dont worry, but in your situation you need a serious sit down discussion.

Sorry, but if I was in a 6 yr relationship and it actually meant something to me, I would have no problem not talking to someone I havent talked to in years anyway to keep from introducing an unnecessary toxic element into the relationship.

[DOMITIAN]

Sorry, but I can only be blunt on this subject. Nobody owns anybody. Your boyfriend told you about his long and satisfying relationship with his first partner. You cannot change the past. They have a history together; you must respect that. Let him be free and talk to whom he wishes, especially someone who he has shared so much with. Be prepared to accept the possibility of him drifting away if he wants that. We have no control over the wishes and desires of others. Real love is unconditional love.

[Crs30]

Before my partner got with me, he had a few girlfriends (and he admittedly likes the way vagina feels). He was on and off with one of them for a few years, and he broke up with her the last time just a few months before he and I met. I'm not sure if they ever had sex or not, but I'm not going to ask because it doesn't really matter. I do know that they had a good emotional bond on a some level though. My partner and his ex-girlfriend actually just went to a mutual friend's wedding together. Was I terrified? You betcha, I even thought he took her to the wedding to cover up being gay. I think they even shared a hotel room. But I kept my mouth shut to them both. The last thing I need after being with my partner is to make him think I suspect he'd try something with her. Come to find out, he had a conversation about being gay with the bride's parents, and he talked with his ex-gf about staying with me on the very long term. Long story short, I'm going to meet her in a few weeks. She and I share several interests and perspectives. She's a very respectable person. I'm sure she and I would have become friends anyway, even if we didn't have someone in common. The moral of the story is that sometimes our insecurities get the best of us. But relationships are about trust, not worrying over every little (or big) thing. Trust that he'll do the right thing. It's hard to have a relationship of so many years if there isn't trust.

[posterpicture]

yes, relationship about trust and it 's also about communication.
If you have doubt thoughts that make you feel insecure. Then why don't you discuss with your partner about that. It doesn't mean you don't trust your partner. Open communication is very important in a relationship. Clarify all of the mist will help your relationship stronger. Even if after clearing out those mist and you found some ugly weeds there, it 's still better to know sooner than later.