Online dating experience

[Bourani]

Is it me or 99% of guys on online dating website are total bastards?

OK, I never get any messages there except for the rare ones from over 50 years old men who look for someone to play with. I can think of some explanation for that - my pics are not in i-take-a-pic-of-myself-in-the-mirror-with-iphone4-so-that-everyone-sees-my-body style, but rather me in clothes.

Me sending a message usually ends up with one of the following:

1) Ignore
2) "Sorry, no interest" message
3) a dialogue starts during which it gets clear the guy is:

a) not very smart
b) not smart at all
c) looks for one-time sex
d) seems to be fine, but in a week tells he is not interested (why the hell you didn't say that in the first place?)

How about your experience?

[CeeJ]

I just started looking at okcupid. I am not really ready to date, but this is what I fear about online dating.

Sorry to hear its been rough for you, hopefully it will turn around.

[fredv3b]

Is it me or 99% of guys on online dating website are total bastards?

That's a bit harsh for just not being interested.

How about your experience?

The sorts of guys that different sites attract are quite different, perhaps you are using the wrong one for you?

I met my bf (soon to be husband) on match.com, perseverance paid off for me.

[TheDerek]

Is it me or 99% of guys on online dating website are total bastards?

OK, I never get any messages there except for the rare ones from over 50 years old men who look for someone to play with. I can think of some explanation for that - my pics are not in i-take-a-pic-of-myself-in-the-mirror-with-iphone4-so-that-everyone-sees-my-body style, but rather me in clothes.

Me sending a message usually ends up with one of the following:

1) Ignore
2) "Sorry, no interest" message
3) a dialogue starts during which it gets clear the guy is:

a) not very smart
b) not smart at all
c) looks for one-time sex
d) seems to be fine, but in a week tells he is not interested (why the hell you didn't say that in the first place?)

How about your experience?

I started dabbing around online when I was about 20, went on a lot of dates etc. Most either didnt click or were only after sex. Never entered into a relationship until I was 24, and 2 years later its stronger than ever. (it was myspace, so not REALLY a dating site I guess).

If I were you, I'd just put myself out there as much as possible, be-it online, bar, friend referrals, etc. You WILL go through a lot of garbage, but its worth it in the end!