06-20-2011, 04:48 AM
Alright this might be lengthy, but I would really appreciate any help you guys can give me! I wouldnt really care much about this sort of issue but I've never felt the way I do about this guy towards any other guy. I can't explain it, but anyways here is the story.
So a guy joined an organization I am in at school. We'll call him Mike. Well, Mike and I are alike yet opposite and we mesh really, really well as friends. I started to like him after about two months (we met in January and March was when I started to like him). Well he's a naturally flirtatious person so whenever he and I interacted in the office people thought we were flirting and pretty much everyone says we'd be great together. So around April I told him that I was having feelings that were more than friendship (over facebook since our schedules made it COMPLETELY impossible to talk in person for like 3 weeks) and that I wanted to ask him out and was interested in a relationship.
His verbatim reply: "You are cool dude, but I am not interested. I am sorry. I don't really talking about this face to face with people, because I do not like seeing disappointment on people's faces." So I was disappointed but I got over it.
Jump to June, this month. Out of the blue he asks me to go drinking with him. At first I thought it was a ploy to get me to drive him around or to help him get a job or something but it wasn't. We hung out for a few hours, he invited only me, even though some friends of ours joined us later. And last week I asked him to go out again and he suggested we just drink at his house. We had a great time and got along really well as friends. He did mention once that he wished a guy on his team (sports) was gay because he was really cute. He gave me a wierd look like he was trying to analyze me when he said it. Anyways long story short we're pretty good friends now.
NOW to my question. He knows I am gay. He is gay. We both get along fantastically as friends, and we were only acquaintances back when I sent that message. Is he possibly wanting to scope out the possibility of a relationship with me? He knows I was interested in him, I know he was getting out of a bad relationship when I asked him that the first time, and he didnt specify whether he wasnt interested in me or in a relationship. I'm not expecting a definitive mind reading answer, but any advice from guys older and wiser than myself would be appreciated. I just find it confusing that he suddenly out of nowhere wants to be friends when he has plenty of guy and girl friends. He's an enigma, one of the reasons I'm crazy about him lol.
Thanks mile:
M
So a guy joined an organization I am in at school. We'll call him Mike. Well, Mike and I are alike yet opposite and we mesh really, really well as friends. I started to like him after about two months (we met in January and March was when I started to like him). Well he's a naturally flirtatious person so whenever he and I interacted in the office people thought we were flirting and pretty much everyone says we'd be great together. So around April I told him that I was having feelings that were more than friendship (over facebook since our schedules made it COMPLETELY impossible to talk in person for like 3 weeks) and that I wanted to ask him out and was interested in a relationship.
His verbatim reply: "You are cool dude, but I am not interested. I am sorry. I don't really talking about this face to face with people, because I do not like seeing disappointment on people's faces." So I was disappointed but I got over it.
Jump to June, this month. Out of the blue he asks me to go drinking with him. At first I thought it was a ploy to get me to drive him around or to help him get a job or something but it wasn't. We hung out for a few hours, he invited only me, even though some friends of ours joined us later. And last week I asked him to go out again and he suggested we just drink at his house. We had a great time and got along really well as friends. He did mention once that he wished a guy on his team (sports) was gay because he was really cute. He gave me a wierd look like he was trying to analyze me when he said it. Anyways long story short we're pretty good friends now.
NOW to my question. He knows I am gay. He is gay. We both get along fantastically as friends, and we were only acquaintances back when I sent that message. Is he possibly wanting to scope out the possibility of a relationship with me? He knows I was interested in him, I know he was getting out of a bad relationship when I asked him that the first time, and he didnt specify whether he wasnt interested in me or in a relationship. I'm not expecting a definitive mind reading answer, but any advice from guys older and wiser than myself would be appreciated. I just find it confusing that he suddenly out of nowhere wants to be friends when he has plenty of guy and girl friends. He's an enigma, one of the reasons I'm crazy about him lol.
Thanks mile:
M