New Experience?

[trueway44]

Hey,
My boyfriend and I have been together for about six months now and I'm really falling for him. I had a few questions regarding sex that have been on my mind for awhile.

When my boyfriend and I have sex, I can never finish. He doesn't complain because he loves to bottom, but I'd like to have an end to what I'm doing. We live a ways away from each other, so we only have sex on weekends, and only every so often because that's not really what our relationship is based on. I'm not sure what's going on, maybe I masturbate too frequently and to porn? Some things to note:

I never get "blue balls" or am in any pain after we stop.
It feels really, really good, but I never climax.
I cum all the time when I watch porn by myself.

The other question I had is about rimming. We've never really done it before and we haven't talked about it either, but I'd really like to try it on him. I'm pretty sure he'd go crazy for it, but I feel like it would be awkward. Should I just man up and take control? (he likes it when I do that) or should we talk about it before hand. I want to make sure he's comfortable and clean.

Just some thoughts. I figured here would be a good place to ask
Thanks!
-Evan

[Braz]

I would say it could be coz your watching porn and cumming before having sex with your boyfriend and need to to bulid it all back up so you can finish and cum when your with your boyfriend. The other thing is rimming i think is a nasty thing to do, but its up to other people what they do and i would say talk with your boyfriend about it even though he likes you taking control.

[dfiant]

Perhaps you could try watching porn together, not everyones cuppa tea, but some couple do watch porn together during coitus (I love Bing Bang Theory for that word). I have had one relationship where I could never 'end it' during coitus, but I could while maturbating during coitus, I don't understand why, but it was just the way it was with him.

As for rimming, not a fan of it, seems to be rather unhygenic to me, but each to their own. Perhaps you could just work your way round to it during oral...you know, licking balls and working your way down, the worst thing that will happen is he will say 'no' as you work your way down there.

[marshlander]

Don't worry about being unable to finish unless it is too frustrating for either of you. I suspect it happens more often than we think. I can think of at least one relationship where one man could not reach orgasm until they found a position that suited them both. Finding that position took months.

There's nothing less valid about sex that requires some manual assistance to finish. With a partner you have more hands available for more pleasure.

Rimming can be very pleasurable. If either one is squeamish, but you still want to try it, drag him into the shower where a lot of fun can also be had