Haha I know! I tried to send you a PM on here earlier to say the exact same thing, but apparently I haven't posted enough on Gayspeak to unlock that privilege yet, so you had a lucky escape
I lived a vast portion of my early years being desperately lonely, having had a couple of relatively long term relationships in the past 4 years or so, I'm quite keen to avoid that loneliness again, knowing what being with someone is like, but I know exactly what you mean, I've just started a new job and its fairly time intensive AND i have to study for exams on the side of that so I have enough to focus on! But then when free time does come around..
Anyway back to the O/Ps post (I said in a different threat I very easily go off topic and ramble for pages and pages
), If you ask me, the only way to attract people worth attracting is to be yourself, act the way you are, not the way you think they want you to be, sure fire way to win if you ask me.
If you're just wanting a fling, then a shirtless photograph and an explicit message on a gay dating site will probably do the trick