Thinking about others during sex

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I have always talked openly about my fantasies and encouraged my partner to do the same and in my opinion it is probably one of the best ingredients in a relationship.

The problem in my opinion is we are all encouraged to idealize love from the moment we pop out of the womb and it is ridiculous because so many people leave miserable lives with or without someone because of the stupid ideals other people planted in their head about how they "should" feel that they try to uphold...and then they die. What a waste...

Truth is...we are all sexual beings and having fantasies is completely normal so instead of shaming and guilting yourself and living in fear...own them...celebrate them...share them with your partner...