09-10-2012, 09:52 AM
Don't give him an ultimatum unless you have to.
Listen to whatever he says and take account of it.
There may be negative or hurtful things he'll tell you, that to him, gives him a reason to cheat.
You need to see his side as well as yours and try to find a compromise.
Maybe it's just something he feels that you do (or not do) that makes him looking elsewhere. This again is only an example; I'm not saying its your fault at all.
If you both are able to communicate and find the problem, the all you have to do is work together to fix it.
But if he says he can't live in a monogamous relationship, then it ultimately comes down to you. You can either leave him, try and pursuade him more, or... give in to his wish for an open relationship despite your feelings.
Please do what's best for you.
He's clearly been doing what's best for himself.
So don't let him win and suppress your feelings and voice.
Listen to whatever he says and take account of it.
There may be negative or hurtful things he'll tell you, that to him, gives him a reason to cheat.
You need to see his side as well as yours and try to find a compromise.
Maybe it's just something he feels that you do (or not do) that makes him looking elsewhere. This again is only an example; I'm not saying its your fault at all.
If you both are able to communicate and find the problem, the all you have to do is work together to fix it.
But if he says he can't live in a monogamous relationship, then it ultimately comes down to you. You can either leave him, try and pursuade him more, or... give in to his wish for an open relationship despite your feelings.
Please do what's best for you.
He's clearly been doing what's best for himself.
So don't let him win and suppress your feelings and voice.
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