10-08-2012, 09:55 AM
I can understand your concern. (mainly by your username xD)
However, I'm afraid there's probably very little you can actively do to ensure your son's heterosexuality.
At the moment, you really can't be sure, and neither can he, and it's probably best to leave the situation be, unless real issues arise from this friendship such as loss of focus on schoolwork or something unusual or sexual.
The thing is, if you try to interfere with his sexuality at that age, it'll most certainly result in prolonging his confusion. If it's done poorly, it'll end in tears and resentment.
The best thing is to probably just wait it out, not interfere too much with his private social affairs, and see if his behaviour is actually indicative of his sexuality - not liking sports and interest in cooking is no way necessarily a sure sign of homosexuality.
I know how much it may hurt to think that your line may not go on in grandchildren, but he might very well have biological children of his own even if he is gay. Besides, it's not good to worry about your legacy over your present self.
Really, it's not advisable to try to ensure your son's heterosexuality, it's just a bad idea that will put your relationship on very thin ice, and losing your son will hurt infinitely more than the possibility of losing the potential for grandchildren.
So my advice (though I can't say I have too much credibility at my age) is to wait and see, don't appease him, but don't stifle him. This may very well just be a phase or something of the sort and he might not be gay at all, but whatever happens, attempting to actively change the fundament of his life is the worst thing you could do, especially for the sake of your own interests.
12 is a young age, don't worry about it at the moment, just wait and observe.
However, I'm afraid there's probably very little you can actively do to ensure your son's heterosexuality.
At the moment, you really can't be sure, and neither can he, and it's probably best to leave the situation be, unless real issues arise from this friendship such as loss of focus on schoolwork or something unusual or sexual.
The thing is, if you try to interfere with his sexuality at that age, it'll most certainly result in prolonging his confusion. If it's done poorly, it'll end in tears and resentment.
The best thing is to probably just wait it out, not interfere too much with his private social affairs, and see if his behaviour is actually indicative of his sexuality - not liking sports and interest in cooking is no way necessarily a sure sign of homosexuality.
I know how much it may hurt to think that your line may not go on in grandchildren, but he might very well have biological children of his own even if he is gay. Besides, it's not good to worry about your legacy over your present self.
Really, it's not advisable to try to ensure your son's heterosexuality, it's just a bad idea that will put your relationship on very thin ice, and losing your son will hurt infinitely more than the possibility of losing the potential for grandchildren.
So my advice (though I can't say I have too much credibility at my age) is to wait and see, don't appease him, but don't stifle him. This may very well just be a phase or something of the sort and he might not be gay at all, but whatever happens, attempting to actively change the fundament of his life is the worst thing you could do, especially for the sake of your own interests.
12 is a young age, don't worry about it at the moment, just wait and observe.
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