10-08-2012, 09:57 AM
Hi and Welcome....
First... No, you can´t change him.... if he is gay he IS gay....no way out.
But I can´t see anything what is "really" gay .... his friends are not a option to say if your son is gay or not, same with his behavior.... if he likes to cook..says nothing.... and football says nothing too. In time we have here in Germany a call that gay football-player should say that they are gay... because its nothing wrong with being a gay-football-player.
So ...whats to do ... be very careful.... If you think he is gay do what you have to do as a father. Protect him.. if you see that others ( maybe in school ) have the same opinion like you and think that he is gay. Never joke about gay-people if he can hear you.. that would destroy his confidence in you immediately. Show him that you are on his side ...ever...
I always say treat a gay kid like a raw egg.... very carefully as long as he don´t talk to you. The suicide rate of gay kids and youth is 4 x higher....
Another thing is that male gay kids have problems with their straight fathers ... they feel really fast not-wanted and not accepted....
Do NOT talk about your wish for grandchildren to him .... but you have a chance for grandchildren ... maybe not HIS own kids ... but if the situation change in the EU we have a true chance to adopt kids in future and I think thats a good way too.
But can you do that .... it's not as bad as it sounds... if you see that he is just gay... but he don´t change the person he is.
First... No, you can´t change him.... if he is gay he IS gay....no way out.
But I can´t see anything what is "really" gay .... his friends are not a option to say if your son is gay or not, same with his behavior.... if he likes to cook..says nothing.... and football says nothing too. In time we have here in Germany a call that gay football-player should say that they are gay... because its nothing wrong with being a gay-football-player.
So ...whats to do ... be very careful.... If you think he is gay do what you have to do as a father. Protect him.. if you see that others ( maybe in school ) have the same opinion like you and think that he is gay. Never joke about gay-people if he can hear you.. that would destroy his confidence in you immediately. Show him that you are on his side ...ever...
I always say treat a gay kid like a raw egg.... very carefully as long as he don´t talk to you. The suicide rate of gay kids and youth is 4 x higher....
Another thing is that male gay kids have problems with their straight fathers ... they feel really fast not-wanted and not accepted....
Do NOT talk about your wish for grandchildren to him .... but you have a chance for grandchildren ... maybe not HIS own kids ... but if the situation change in the EU we have a true chance to adopt kids in future and I think thats a good way too.
But can you do that .... it's not as bad as it sounds... if you see that he is just gay... but he don´t change the person he is.
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