10-08-2012, 10:19 AM
Hi ConcernedParent, yes we understand that you are not gay, got it? We are not so cliquey that we dont realise that parents might come on to this forum for answers. Now that is out of the way...
I'm guessing that you don't have too much experience of the gay world or have any gay friends - so it is actually a pretty good idea to come on to this forum. In terms of your son, and I know this is easy to say since i am not in the situation, but you just have to let him find his own way. You can try to stifle him or point him in a certain direction but if he is gay then it will probably just make him resent you and put restrictions on your relationship. Unfortunately you wanting grandchildren is really not his problem - if he is gay then he is simply not going to have children the old fashioned way.
12 is young but some people know that young. However, not everybody likes football - I know a load of straight guys that dont like football so that really is not a 'red flag' that he is gay. But that is besides the point, if he is gay then i'm afraid that you are just going to have to accept that and that is the best thing you can do for your relationship. Unless of course you are incredibly homophobic and cannot accept it - in which case, good luck with your ignorance. Trying to put guidelines on somebody's sexuality, however much you want him to be straight, just will not work out in the long run. You might not want to hear that and rest assured that you are not the only parent who doesnt want a gay son (read a few threads on this forum!) but im afraid that those are the facts you have to live with.
I hope you and your son can figure this one out, he might be gay, he might not be, either way you guys should have a good father-son relationship and live happily.
I'm guessing that you don't have too much experience of the gay world or have any gay friends - so it is actually a pretty good idea to come on to this forum. In terms of your son, and I know this is easy to say since i am not in the situation, but you just have to let him find his own way. You can try to stifle him or point him in a certain direction but if he is gay then it will probably just make him resent you and put restrictions on your relationship. Unfortunately you wanting grandchildren is really not his problem - if he is gay then he is simply not going to have children the old fashioned way.
12 is young but some people know that young. However, not everybody likes football - I know a load of straight guys that dont like football so that really is not a 'red flag' that he is gay. But that is besides the point, if he is gay then i'm afraid that you are just going to have to accept that and that is the best thing you can do for your relationship. Unless of course you are incredibly homophobic and cannot accept it - in which case, good luck with your ignorance. Trying to put guidelines on somebody's sexuality, however much you want him to be straight, just will not work out in the long run. You might not want to hear that and rest assured that you are not the only parent who doesnt want a gay son (read a few threads on this forum!) but im afraid that those are the facts you have to live with.
I hope you and your son can figure this one out, he might be gay, he might not be, either way you guys should have a good father-son relationship and live happily.
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