07-15-2016, 06:43 AM
Hey guys,
My ex and I broke up like 2 months ago, due trust issues. We'd been together for 2 years. I'm 26, he's 23. I'm his first boyfriend and he's also my first.
Our first year was very rocky, he use to lie, cheat, flirt with other guys right in front of me, often had a shady behavior; he confirmed all that a year into, when he cried very much and confessed all the mistakes he had done, and that he'd change. He changed, indeed, but I could never fully trust. Not during our first year, even less after that sh*t.
I broke up with him, he begged to come back, I accepted, and we had another year; which was better, but still, could never tell for sure. Then we broke up after I found out more of his lies.
A month after that we had a talk... and we got back together once again. It lasted a week. Then he dumped me stating things wouldn't work. I didn't fight back.
Now it's been another month and I can't stop missing him. Even with all his bad sides, there were great things about him which I miss everyday.
My relationship was clearly a very bad one, but why can't I let this guy go? We're on NC, I don't feel like talking to him, I'm not even stalking, I want it to be over, but he's always here. Like a ghost.
I'm eating well and healthy, exercising, sleeping well, keeping up with all my activities, I've been seeing other guys too, but none of it makes him disappear of my mind. What else can I do? I love that guy, but he's no good and I keep trying to convince myself that with no success.
How long does it take to get over someone? Why after all he put me through and after giving us up (even though he brought all the problems to our relationship) I can't accept it's over? I feel like I'd even give it another shot if he came for it...
My ex and I broke up like 2 months ago, due trust issues. We'd been together for 2 years. I'm 26, he's 23. I'm his first boyfriend and he's also my first.
Our first year was very rocky, he use to lie, cheat, flirt with other guys right in front of me, often had a shady behavior; he confirmed all that a year into, when he cried very much and confessed all the mistakes he had done, and that he'd change. He changed, indeed, but I could never fully trust. Not during our first year, even less after that sh*t.
I broke up with him, he begged to come back, I accepted, and we had another year; which was better, but still, could never tell for sure. Then we broke up after I found out more of his lies.
A month after that we had a talk... and we got back together once again. It lasted a week. Then he dumped me stating things wouldn't work. I didn't fight back.
Now it's been another month and I can't stop missing him. Even with all his bad sides, there were great things about him which I miss everyday.
My relationship was clearly a very bad one, but why can't I let this guy go? We're on NC, I don't feel like talking to him, I'm not even stalking, I want it to be over, but he's always here. Like a ghost.
I'm eating well and healthy, exercising, sleeping well, keeping up with all my activities, I've been seeing other guys too, but none of it makes him disappear of my mind. What else can I do? I love that guy, but he's no good and I keep trying to convince myself that with no success.
How long does it take to get over someone? Why after all he put me through and after giving us up (even though he brought all the problems to our relationship) I can't accept it's over? I feel like I'd even give it another shot if he came for it...
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