Broke up after 2 years together

[MikeW]

...My ex and I broke up like 2 months ago, ...How long does it take to get over someone? Why after all he put me through and after giving us up (even though he brought all the problems to our relationship) I can't accept it's over? I feel like I'd even give it another shot if he came for it...

As [MENTION=18508]East[/MENTION] said, you need to try and understand what YOU put into this failed relationship. It always takes two to tangle. So, indeed, what's up with this desire to get back into wha you no KNOW will be a disappointing (and emotionally abusive) relationship?

I suggest you NOT be a one time poster on this forum. We don't know you yet but over time if you just hang out and get to know some of us, perhaps we can help you unravel this mystery.

In the mean time, how long does it take to get over someone? It takes a s long as it takes. When there's been a relationship like this, its sort of like a death. There's a "mourning" period (even if you don't "mourn" in the standard sense of grieve the loss). Its like something, someone, you're used to being there, spending time with, is suddenly not there... so... your mind keeps "recreating" the ghost (so to say).

Well, ok... so how do you stop that? All I know is, each time you catch yourself thinking of him a) remind yourself WHY he's no good for you and b) tell your brain to STOP thinking about him. It takes practice, will power, discipline. Distract yourself with something else. IDK... *anything*... just practice not thinking about him.

Eventually that becomes easier and easier. Further on you'll discover that other things begin to interest you more than he does.

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Now... all of that said.... I want to ask you a question: If you really "love this guy" how come you can't ACCEPT him for what and who he is? .... Accept him and feel totally ok about the fact that he is not and probably never will a) be truthful and b) will always want sex outside your relationship? How can you say you LOVE someone and yet not fully accept who and what they are?