Broke up after 2 years together

[InbetweenDreams]

My advice like the hobbies...do something different. Being bored will certainly cause you much unneeded grief. An idle mind is a devil's workshop...

I know about this time last year I didn't think I would be doing a triathlon tomorrow... or had plans to do bike touring among other things.

However doing all those things doesn't stop me from looking back at things and just wished things were different. So I don't think of it as a cure but it does help, better than self loathing and self pity. I mean I could really hate myself over the things I've said and done, I think there are grounds for that. However, I don't think sulking about it will contribute to making me a better person, I think that would be goal... Learn from mistakes and try to better myself.

I always get advice saying, never date your exes. I will say almost always that is sound advice, almost always the reasons for moving on are still present. It's not that people don't change, they do, just not completely... Like I'm an INFJ...expecting me to become an ESFP is like expecting to win the lottery...

Oh and INFJ and ESFP are the worst match ever...I dated one earlier this year...by the end I wanted to put a ball gag in his mouth...and not for kinky reasons!

I don't think there is a way to really get over things from a relationship...I mean I have dated guys who I wished things would have worked out for the long haul but for one reason or another just wasn't a match. Kind of like being one number off the lottery...Mother...Friggin...sunnova! Time is the only thing that seems to work. I do believe there are stages, but it can take some time, but once you can reflect, truly reflect I think that's the point where you can let things go and not let it control you and bring you down.

Hmmm...well I think trying something new and perhaps bizzare would be in order.. Many many things I have done this year I didn't think I would enjoy. Only problem now is that I have too many hobbies and not enough room... I think anyone walking in here would say, "Single much?"

Anyway hopefully the responses here can help with moving on to bigger and better things...hey you're 26...I'm turning 30 in a couple weeks!