07-21-2016, 01:24 PM
Hello, [MENTION=23745]mikeyhexagon[/MENTION], and 
to GaySpeak. It might help us to know a little more about your age and your background culture to help with advice that would pertain to your particular situation.
I gather that you are not out, and I also think that you are quite young, and relatively inexperienced (but that's just guessing).
So, yes, the Internet is full of options and possibilities but also full of traps which need to be avoided, but I'd say that is much of what adult life is about, no matter where you come from, avoiding the traps.
You say you are attracted to some guys, so far so good, I don't think anyone is attracted to all guys and at all times. So the thing is finding the 'right guy or guys' to help you feel wanted, loved, sexed and considered, and ultimately less lonely. I believe we get that.
So your background is rather religious (what kind of religion? Could you disclose?) and you are therefore not out to family. Are you out to some of your friends?
It is possible that you have an issue with being close and STDs but no one likes an STD or AIDS (really) and being close will mean being vulnerable at some point. Who do you trust with these things, who do you trust with your sense of safety? Believe me there are other guys out there who are exactly like you, afraid of living their lives, but here probably part of your fear is to do with the fact that once you've found that special someone, you'll have to make it public, in some way, and your fear may also be the fear of having to come out to friends and family. Being in the closet is not a nice place to be.
This is why I think it would help to know what cultural background you come from. Are you Caucasian, Black, Asian, mixed race? Do you live in Europe, America, Africa, Asia, etc... You don't have to say too much if you don't feel comfortable with it, but just enough to direct us in ways that will not be useless advice.
Take care, Mikey.
to GaySpeak. It might help us to know a little more about your age and your background culture to help with advice that would pertain to your particular situation. I gather that you are not out, and I also think that you are quite young, and relatively inexperienced (but that's just guessing).
So, yes, the Internet is full of options and possibilities but also full of traps which need to be avoided, but I'd say that is much of what adult life is about, no matter where you come from, avoiding the traps.
You say you are attracted to some guys, so far so good, I don't think anyone is attracted to all guys and at all times. So the thing is finding the 'right guy or guys' to help you feel wanted, loved, sexed and considered, and ultimately less lonely. I believe we get that.
So your background is rather religious (what kind of religion? Could you disclose?) and you are therefore not out to family. Are you out to some of your friends?
It is possible that you have an issue with being close and STDs but no one likes an STD or AIDS (really) and being close will mean being vulnerable at some point. Who do you trust with these things, who do you trust with your sense of safety? Believe me there are other guys out there who are exactly like you, afraid of living their lives, but here probably part of your fear is to do with the fact that once you've found that special someone, you'll have to make it public, in some way, and your fear may also be the fear of having to come out to friends and family. Being in the closet is not a nice place to be.
This is why I think it would help to know what cultural background you come from. Are you Caucasian, Black, Asian, mixed race? Do you live in Europe, America, Africa, Asia, etc... You don't have to say too much if you don't feel comfortable with it, but just enough to direct us in ways that will not be useless advice.
Take care, Mikey.
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