Sex might end my relationship - please help!

[CorsacReborn]

I think your boyfriend is being selfish, if he really cared then the lack of sex while you get better shouldn't be an issue. He is effectively turning an issue that needs to medically get better so that you can get back to your normal activity and making it all about the lack of sex he is having. He shouldn't be acting like a victim at all considering that he is part of the reason you've had some issues. You shouldn't put up with his attitude towards his need for sex, if he can't respect you when you're in need then I'm sure there are other things he is doing to disrespect you also that you have not mentioned.

Any issues with the anus needs to be taken with caution, and healing in that area can be a very slow process so you need to be patient for anything like tears to heal. I'd go as far as making sure you're diet prevents any constipation and using wet/baby wipes to help clean gently when you do your business, and avoiding anal sex until you are 100% sure that it is healed. That doesn't prevent oral sex if you still wanted to do that so there is still pleasure to be had.