09-17-2016, 02:48 PM
Hey guys - thanks so much for all of your responses and tips. It really helps me to suss out what I'm thinking/feeling with alternate perspectives.
I just sat down with my partner to talk through a few of these tips and how I've been feeling. It didn't go incredibly well.
Instead of being understanding when I told him my issues he responded with anger. The chat came about because I'd just declined sex (because I'm still waiting on all of my results) and he just wouldn't take in anything of what I had to say.
'I feel like after the results come back things will get better, but then will get worse again. I don't feel like you want to have sex with me anymore. I don't think in the long run this will work because I don't feel like you want to do it with me - so even if we have sex I will second guess if you're doing it because you want to, or for me.' is along the lines of what he said. I think he feels as though I'm doing this on purpose. I just want him to be happy.
Now he's asleep in bed. I'm on the couch. I feel a bit ashamed - maybe this wasn't the best time to talk about this stuff, after declining him. It must make him feel undesirable. But at the same time I kind of feel like if this is what his outlook is and what he's feeling then this will go no where.
I don't know what to do.
I just sat down with my partner to talk through a few of these tips and how I've been feeling. It didn't go incredibly well.
Instead of being understanding when I told him my issues he responded with anger. The chat came about because I'd just declined sex (because I'm still waiting on all of my results) and he just wouldn't take in anything of what I had to say.
'I feel like after the results come back things will get better, but then will get worse again. I don't feel like you want to have sex with me anymore. I don't think in the long run this will work because I don't feel like you want to do it with me - so even if we have sex I will second guess if you're doing it because you want to, or for me.' is along the lines of what he said. I think he feels as though I'm doing this on purpose. I just want him to be happy.
Now he's asleep in bed. I'm on the couch. I feel a bit ashamed - maybe this wasn't the best time to talk about this stuff, after declining him. It must make him feel undesirable. But at the same time I kind of feel like if this is what his outlook is and what he's feeling then this will go no where.
I don't know what to do.
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