Partner gained Weight

[tarotjoe]

I hate to say it this way but you are only 22. You are supposed to be idealistic in what you want. That is a good thing. You moved and changed your life for him and now you support him. He blames you because it is easier than blaming himself. You have the ability to leave him but, it seems he is the first man you put ahead of your own life. That is a HUGE thing. But there are other people out there. It seems your partner gave up and not you. He is not working to help. If that continues then YOU are better of with out him. If you want him, the him you fell in love with, fight to get him. Try Couples' counseling if needed. It is not shallow to have issues with a partner that gains weight. It is just the easiest thing to fix. I bet you hope that if that improves the other things that bother you about him will too. But that may not be the case. Love yourself enough to do what you KNOW you need AND want to do. I hope it works out for you.