02-01-2011, 09:10 AM
Hi Saus,
I hate to echo so many before me, but please oblige me at the least. I felt after reading your post that sparked this thread, that you may have been acting a bit shallow, and materialistic. You began your post by describing how many pieces of realestate you reportedly own, your vehicle, your financial situation, and the current climate of your sex life. If you do indeed have some reasonable facsimle of feelings for your partner, which underlying your post it is appearant that tere is at least some smathering there; you musn't be seeking a solution from a forum of strangers. You should be seeking a solution with your partner.
I have been with my partner for 7 years, and have had the same highs and lows as the next couple. I myself have struggled with weight fluctuation at one point. I can tell you this from first hand knowledge... You commenting on his weight wasn't needed, you becomming poigniant about his weight was inconsiderate, you demanding he make a change to his diet or you would leave him is not only a recipe for romantic disaster, but you are treading on ice that you haven't checked the thickness of yet my friend. All posters previous to me have validated this already, we could stretch this thread to the ends of the earth as to the cause of his dietary change. However I cannot help but come back full circle on your crassness, and the obtuse attitude you have to the situation... First of all, it's not a situation, it's a fact of life my friend. As we age, our bodies change you yourself may be the size of a house when you are 50 only time will tell and never say never. So he gained some weight who cares? He is still the same person you purport to have fallen in love with from the beginning. This air of selfishness seems to be exacerbated by your touts of living situation that were aforementioned in the beginning of my post. You go on to describe the sacrifices you have made by moving to be with him, and leaving your family behind ( I do recall a more descriptive text however). Yet in the beginning of your post you varilly tell us how you were self motivated, and excited to move to his country to be with him, so this doesn't seem to be a case of self sacrifice in the least.
Regardless of what anyone has to say on this site, you are of age enough to know how to form a decision on your own. You know what you need to do, and undoubtedly you had made your decision on how to handle your presumed predicament before you even began this post; I think your were merely looking for quantification for your actions.
For the sake of you, your partner, as well as any future relashionships you may encounter whether they be romantic, platonic, personal, or professional I suggest you collectively examine your own sense of values, how you treat others, and what is truly important at the end of the day.
Best of luck to you.
I hate to echo so many before me, but please oblige me at the least. I felt after reading your post that sparked this thread, that you may have been acting a bit shallow, and materialistic. You began your post by describing how many pieces of realestate you reportedly own, your vehicle, your financial situation, and the current climate of your sex life. If you do indeed have some reasonable facsimle of feelings for your partner, which underlying your post it is appearant that tere is at least some smathering there; you musn't be seeking a solution from a forum of strangers. You should be seeking a solution with your partner.
I have been with my partner for 7 years, and have had the same highs and lows as the next couple. I myself have struggled with weight fluctuation at one point. I can tell you this from first hand knowledge... You commenting on his weight wasn't needed, you becomming poigniant about his weight was inconsiderate, you demanding he make a change to his diet or you would leave him is not only a recipe for romantic disaster, but you are treading on ice that you haven't checked the thickness of yet my friend. All posters previous to me have validated this already, we could stretch this thread to the ends of the earth as to the cause of his dietary change. However I cannot help but come back full circle on your crassness, and the obtuse attitude you have to the situation... First of all, it's not a situation, it's a fact of life my friend. As we age, our bodies change you yourself may be the size of a house when you are 50 only time will tell and never say never. So he gained some weight who cares? He is still the same person you purport to have fallen in love with from the beginning. This air of selfishness seems to be exacerbated by your touts of living situation that were aforementioned in the beginning of my post. You go on to describe the sacrifices you have made by moving to be with him, and leaving your family behind ( I do recall a more descriptive text however). Yet in the beginning of your post you varilly tell us how you were self motivated, and excited to move to his country to be with him, so this doesn't seem to be a case of self sacrifice in the least.
Regardless of what anyone has to say on this site, you are of age enough to know how to form a decision on your own. You know what you need to do, and undoubtedly you had made your decision on how to handle your presumed predicament before you even began this post; I think your were merely looking for quantification for your actions.
For the sake of you, your partner, as well as any future relashionships you may encounter whether they be romantic, platonic, personal, or professional I suggest you collectively examine your own sense of values, how you treat others, and what is truly important at the end of the day.
Best of luck to you.
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