Should he move?

[Bowyn Aerrow]

You most likely have a valid reason or twelve... However if you make up this choice for your buddy no matter what you say, he will come to have a bit of angst at you.

Lets say you keep him there, then its your fault for him missing out. If you tell him to go and when the relationships ends, suddenly its your fault for forcing him to go.

if something goes wrong and he is up the creek, that is his creek and should be fully his own creek in that he makes this tough choice.

We all have to decide if we want to take risks or not. If we let others decide for us then its too easy to blame everyone else for our problems. That is the lazy man's way.

Be sportive of him, tell him you will support his choice either way.

Maybe suggest a safety net, him saving up money in case he needs to bail.

I think what he really wants is validation for his feelings, he has already applied for transfers, he is already set to go. Now he is getting cold feet, he doesn't need you to tell him what to do, he is looking to you to tell him that his feelings and choices are valid.