07-03-2012, 05:18 AM
Well now,
I don't want to take away from those who are in more need than I. I know some people are having real issues and problems with coming to terms with who they are and trying to come out about it with those they love. I was hoping to maybe get a little help myself with my situation. I guess I'll just post my coming out story and hope someone has a solution though I think I know the answer already.
I have come to terms with my sexuality back in Jr. high, about 8th grade, though I do remember thoughts of attraction since early elementary school days. I told no one until I told my brother, on his birthday no doubt, great present, about 8 or so years ago, and thankfully he was completely fine with it. I have told all my close friends and their fine with it. Here's some of the issues I am having. My father asked me if I was gay after finding some "questionable" sites on my comp. I told him no, that it was a spam email, he told me he wouldn't care and that he still loved me but I still denied it. I believe that he did know, and my regret was not telling him before he passed away 7 years ago. I am trying to live out and proud, so I want to tell my mom. Here's the part that doesn't seem to make since to me. There have been enough "accidental" slips that I know she knows, and she would be fine with it, her sister is gay, not "out" specifically but we all know it. Now every time I try to tell her, I get so scared that I clam up and hide inside myself. I have no idea why I am so scared of telling her. I feel I need to just buck up and say it to her and get over this complete fear I am feeling. I have thought about writing a letter and leaving it for her or just handing it to her, but I feel I need to say it to her and not just let her read it. I have also thought about doing something along the lines of how my personality is, and having a card read "I love you and wanted you to know", and when you open have it play I'm coming out. lol I just don't know, I also hope that by coming out to her not only will I be able to start living my life more open but it will help me not be so stressed out and depressed. Sorry for the long message but any thoughts or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
Andy
I don't want to take away from those who are in more need than I. I know some people are having real issues and problems with coming to terms with who they are and trying to come out about it with those they love. I was hoping to maybe get a little help myself with my situation. I guess I'll just post my coming out story and hope someone has a solution though I think I know the answer already.
I have come to terms with my sexuality back in Jr. high, about 8th grade, though I do remember thoughts of attraction since early elementary school days. I told no one until I told my brother, on his birthday no doubt, great present, about 8 or so years ago, and thankfully he was completely fine with it. I have told all my close friends and their fine with it. Here's some of the issues I am having. My father asked me if I was gay after finding some "questionable" sites on my comp. I told him no, that it was a spam email, he told me he wouldn't care and that he still loved me but I still denied it. I believe that he did know, and my regret was not telling him before he passed away 7 years ago. I am trying to live out and proud, so I want to tell my mom. Here's the part that doesn't seem to make since to me. There have been enough "accidental" slips that I know she knows, and she would be fine with it, her sister is gay, not "out" specifically but we all know it. Now every time I try to tell her, I get so scared that I clam up and hide inside myself. I have no idea why I am so scared of telling her. I feel I need to just buck up and say it to her and get over this complete fear I am feeling. I have thought about writing a letter and leaving it for her or just handing it to her, but I feel I need to say it to her and not just let her read it. I have also thought about doing something along the lines of how my personality is, and having a card read "I love you and wanted you to know", and when you open have it play I'm coming out. lol I just don't know, I also hope that by coming out to her not only will I be able to start living my life more open but it will help me not be so stressed out and depressed. Sorry for the long message but any thoughts or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
Andy