Bareback

[Buffylo]

I used to fall under the 'If I know my partner is clean' category.

My current partner used to (past tense) go with out latex. Until that is two years into our relationship when he started passing the tests (The only test you want to fail - HIV testing).

My sex experiences are pretty limited. I have only been with 8 men in all of my life (46 years).

In the relationships (6 out of 8) initially we went with latex, once we were more certain about the health of our partner we dropped the pretense :tongue:. My slut phase (the two men I had casual one night stands with) I insisted on condomizing before sodomizing.

If I ever date again, I will insist on a condom from start to finish. Only because my experience has taught that you can't really trust a person - they can lie and say they are monogamous, you can buy it, but you can't actually track their every move 24/7. Well now with technology its rather easy, but seriously who wants to tag their partner and monitor there every move?

Wait... he tested positive before then stopped testing positive? say what?

[MrMcfat3]

Bareback? Ew. Not for me.

[Zet]

I'd say I fell on the "I haven't yet, but I might".

The thought is pretty hot, but its not worth if I had to catch something like HIV only due to one night
He gotta be clean, period.

[pellaz]

say you are a Monogamous Gay Relationship, do you have enough communication with your other that he would tell you if he is cheating. no

[ligando]

i did bareback and seriously i will not do it again. thats too risky. safe is better.

[nwwm]

if I was ever in a relationship with a man, there's just no way I could resist it after so long. but I'll never do it unless I know they're clean. all hookups require a condom

[Rumble88]

I want to ask about HIV and how can you catch it? Kissing your partner? If lets say you want to please your partner with your mouth. Is ıt okay, does HIV only spreads with uum.. back way? And can using a condom protect you from HIV?

[BobInTampa]

Rumble:

HIV is trasmitted by blood and semen - not kissing. Now, the only exception to this would be if you were with a man who was bleeding in the mouth (either by accident and/or had oral surgury) but there has to be an open wound in the mouth for their to be a risk of HIV transmission.

The only 100% way to prevent contracting HIV is to NOT have sex (oral or anal) until you're in a 100% monogamous LTR and you've both been tested 2 times in a 3 month period.

Condoms are great for "safer" sex, but they are NOT 100% (especially if a condom breaks, or it's put on improperly or if you have bareback sex before you put on the condom).

Some men perfer using condoms during oral sex, and that barrier can help but again, only total abstainence is the way to prevent contracting HIV or HEP C, HPV, or any other number of STDs.

(note: mutual masturbation is safer as well).

[pellaz]

... The only 100% way to prevent contracting HIV is to NOT have sex (oral or anal) until you're in a 100% monogamous LTR and you've both been tested 2 times in a 3 month period. ...

i thought this was a minimum testing schedule to start a Monogamous relationship. You might want to get tested X times over a 4-6mo time frame. W-whatever, its your body.
Just look at how sensitive the test your getting is and how long the HIV antibodies need to grow in your body to reach that detectable level.

[Blue]

For me it's know my partner and, 2 negative tests, one at 2 months in and, another a six months in and, no anal penetration until the first test is done - there are toys for that in the meantime. I have yet to have a partner come back negative on the first and positive on the second test. ( And I am negative on everything.)

Kissing is a minute risk, but there are times you don't want to kiss unless you know your partner is clean. For a few weeks after having a tooth pulled, filled, after oral surgery, for a few days after a dental cleaning (just in case the hygienist accidentally made your gums bleed a tiny bit.), if you bite your tongue or cheek, etc...