I'm in love with my student, what should I do?

[Alexander]

Sure. I'll tell him that we can be friends for now and see how it goes.

[chillythoughts]

how exactly did you get this teaching position? you dont seem too intelligent in my opinion. also seems you only care about your own feelings. seems you dont even think about how he'd feel. i think this situation is utterly and completely down right illegal.

do you not get it, even if you switch schools, people will still find out that your dating a student and same thing would still happen? to be honest, i hope this all blows up in your face.

quit your job and leave this kid alone.

[Alexander]

how exactly did you get this teaching position? you dont seem too intelligent in my opinion. also seems you only care about your own feelings. seems you dont even think about how he'd feel. i think this situation is utterly and completely down right illegal.

do you not get it, even if you switch schools, people will still find out that your dating a student and same thing would still happen? to be honest, i hope this all blows up in your face.

quit your job and leave this kid alone.

You can't judge on how smart I am, you don't know me.
I am not going to work at school, if I quit this one. As I said before, it's not my major. And you are wrong, I know what he feels, and it's the same as what I feel, the only difference is that I am an adult and I have to think about what's best for him. And leaving him alone is definitely not it.

[EvenOlderButWiser]

if sex happens at least he will be legal.

Blue, did you read any of my earlier posts?

This is not legal in any way regardless of how old the guy is.

There are specific laws in place within the UK that are designed to prevent exactly this kind of behaviour between a teacher and a pupil, regardless of whether one of the parties is of legal age or not.

It was written into law as part of the equalisation of the age of consent within the UK, to prevent adults in any position of authority having emotional or sexual relationships with a high school pupil of any age.

Alex already knows that. He's a teacher in a British school. He will have been made aware of the consequences of any such action as part of his training and his contract of employment.

ObW

[EvenOlderButWiser]

leaving him alone is definitely not it.

Alex, Alex, Alex. I thought our advice was getting though to you?

You really need to get back into real world with this infatuation that you have with this pupil.

If you think the whole school knows and accepts the situation, and somehow the headmaster has given his tacit approval then you're not only infatuated, your delusional.

You need to get yourself out of this situation before it destroys both of you.

ObW

[Alexander]

I mean I'm still in, but I will wait a couple more years.

[chillythoughts]

You can't judge on how smart I am, you don't know me.
I am not going to work at school, if I quit this one. As I said before, it's not my major. And you are wrong, I know what he feels, and it's the same as what I feel, the only difference is that I am an adult and I have to think about what's best for him. And leaving him alone is definitely not it.

actually i can judge you so easily. not hard to tell someones intelligence by how they write and lack of knowledge on situations. and you are by far not smart at all. you jump all over the place. "oh i dont know what to do" "i understand its wrong" "i want to date him but not sleep with him" "i dont want to hurt him" and so on. you are by far the biggest idiot I've ever seen on this site. get over yourself, hes A FUCKING CHILD and if you cant understand that than I dont even know how you got through school yourself. you cant even comprehend whats right and whats wrong.

so you really can TELL what a 15 YEAR OLD FEELS? fool, he doesnt even know what he feels, hes not even mature enough to know what the word "love" means. get a damn brain and learn the difference of the word "love" means to a child and an adult. kids always say I LOVE YOU, I WANNA BE WITH YOU, YOUR MY ALL. and you know what? they dont even know what it feels like to be truly in love as they cant even express it correctly, its just words to them.

grow up.

[Nick9]

Ivory, grow up. And behave like a grown up. Stop calling others names and stop using caps lock so much. That's a practice of teenagers.

Take as step back and take a deep breath. Do you actually listen to him? Or are you picking just what you want to hear so that you could attack him?
He said TWICE he wouldn't act on his desire.

[Alexander]

Thanks, Nick.
Ivory, "not hard to tell someones intelligence by how they write" True, my fair speaking is because english is not my first language and not even the second one. And before you said that I have no right to teach at school, I'll say that I am a maths teacher, and I do what I do very well.

[EvenOlderButWiser]

Alexander,

You came into the forum and asked for advice, and your sure getting plenty of that!

I hope you can take the advice in the spirit its meant, we're not attacking you (well most of us aren't...) We are just trying to help you understand the danger of the situation you're getting yourself into, and could get the pupil into as well.

ObW
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