Threesome?

[megumidesu]

I don't think you can truly love someone after two months :/

i think you can ~
loving someone and being in love with someone are totally different things

[Rumble88]

I don't want a ''one night stand'' kinda relationship. I want to have a family and i want to find that special someone. And i wouldn't share him with anyone else. Its special, i wouldn't want a third person. Threesome is more like.. a fantasy.

[Kinkiki]

I think this is the crux of the dilemma.

He's new to this and he's inexperienced.

And like all hot blooded males his age he's been watching too much porn and thinks 3-somes are the business.

I think a laid back chat about your feelings towards this will help him understand why porn doesn't equal real life LoL.

Good Luck.

ObW
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Yeah thats what I'm kinda thinking lol.

[ThatRobGuy]

Yeah, maybe this is just one of those fantasy type of things where it turns him on to think about doing it but he's not expecting it to happen. I don't know.

And I do love him, very much. Two months or not, I care deeply for him and about him and can't really imagine being without him (of course I'm not really expecting us to be together forever this early on, but I am happier with my life with him around). It's not infatuation or lust at this point (we slept together pretty early on so the whole "novelty" of things has worn off and it's an emotional relationship at this point). But I can understand the skepticism. Every relationship and connection is different.

[Kinkiki]

Yeah, maybe this is just one of those fantasy type of things where it turns him on to think about doing it but he's not expecting it to happen. I don't know.

And I do love him, very much. Two months or not, I care deeply for him and about him and can't really imagine being without him (of course I'm not really expecting us to be together forever this early on, but I am happier with my life with him around). It's not infatuation or lust at this point (we slept together pretty early on so the whole "novelty" of things has worn off and it's an emotional relationship at this point). But I can understand the skepticism. Every relationship and connection is different.

Love is a purely individual thing. One person can literally fall right then and there, other's it takes time. I know couples who've literally met on vacation, married and been together since. Other's were flings and didn't work out.

If you love him, then you love him. You know how you feel. Every relationship and connection is different, you're totally right.

[Marc]

Three somes in a relationship, I'm sorry but I think that is wrong.

Why can't people commit to 1 person, love him/her and be happy?

I'm not saying 3sums are bad... they are good.. very good () but only when you are single and care free!

[Kinkiki]

Three somes in a relationship, I'm sorry but I think that is wrong.

Why can't people commit to 1 person, love him/her and be happy?

I'm not saying 3sums are bad... they are good.. very good () but only when you are single and care free!

I have to say that I agree whole heartedly. A don't think threesome's should happen in between a monogamous relationship. If it starts 3 way its a different story lol.

what started off between two people should remain between two people, unless BOTH parties desire a third.

[princealbertofb]

Some couples are happy to have threesomes with a guest they've both agreed to invite into their intimacy. It's part of their particular sex play. Whether it is for all couples is open for debate. I think we can clearly see that it's not. Couples who indulge in threesomes sometimes do it to break the monotony after a long time of being together, or to spice up their sex life, or maybe just because they both fancy the newcomer, but not for anything durable; By the way, there is a film called Three which is about a group of three men who live together as a threesome. None of them can imagine one of the three leaving the group now. Interesting.

[Talby]

Hey everyone,
I am thinking I might need to circle back around with him and clearly let my feelings about it be known, but I also hate to have "a talk" and sort of rock the boat when we really have had no issues/disagreements at all thus far (and I'd hope this wouldn't be a big deal or dealbreaker for him anyway, but who knows). I don't know if he will bring it back up again, so maybe it's not even worth bringing up to him unless he tries to broach the subject again, but maybe it's also not a bad idea to just let him know it's never going to happen.


Thanks!

TALK! Communicate! If you do not make your desires and feelings known, how is he supposed to react appropriately, or at all? Nothing is more frustrating than to be in a relationship with someone that doesn't ever tell you when they're upset, or have thoughts on a matter. It breeds resentment, and sooner or later, it will come out. Usually in a big blow up.

You don't have to be aggressive or confrontational. State, just as casually as it was brought up, that you're not comfortable with the idea. I'm a fairly "passive" person, too, and I find it difficult to make my feelings known sometimes. It wont cause issues if you're with the right man . . . if he insists and gets angry, you're dealing with a selfish loser.

Best of luck to you, Rob!

[EvenOlderButWiser]

Why can't people commit to 1 person, love him/her and be happy?

If only life were that simple.......

ObW