02-21-2013, 03:36 PM
Hi Guys and Gals!
Plz be warned, this may turn into a genuine rant lol.
I am going crazy and I'm dragging my husband there with me! As many of you know, I was diagnosed with ruemitoid arthritis about 6 years ago. Up until that time, I was a workaholic. I owned a resturant, a B&B, and a catering company. Unfortunately, things had gotten to the point that I just wasn't physically capable of keeping up with my businesses, so I decided to sell them and return to college. It took a few years to actually find buyers and so the first couple of years I went to school part time and still worked until I finally unloaded them all.
After I sold everything I became a full time student. I paid off my home and car and had enough money in the bank that I shouldn't have to work until I finished school. Unfortunately, around this time I was the victim of a mugging. The crack-head who robbed me hit me in the face with a golf club and stole my wallet (he was quickly apprehended, and it turns out he had JUST been released on parole for having broken a woman's collar bone with a wooden post and stealing her purse). My right eye was knocked out of it's socket and over the course of the next year and a half I had to have 6 surgeries on my eye (thank god the Victims Relief Fund paid for my medical bills--$230,000+ that I would have never been able to pay on my own).
Well, as many of my friends here remember, a couple of years ago my ex and I got back together after 8 years apart. I only had 2 semesters of school left when he asked me to move to South Carolina with him and I decided to finish college in Charleston.
Unfortunately, since our marriage isn't recognized here in South Carolina, the school said I had to sit out a year before they would accept me with out having to pay out of state tuition. I won't be able to go back until this coming summer semester at the earliest.
Meanwhile, I am going INSANE not working or going to school! My husband works for the Department of Defense and makes a very nice living, but now that we (Americans) are definitely going to go into Sequester his pay is going to go down by 1/5 for at LEAST a month (possibly more). That in and of itself wouldn't be so bad except we just paid $45,000 to a surrogacy clinic in hopes of starting a family.
I am not completely with out income, as I have several rental properties, but I only have about $800 a month coming in after taxes and expenses.
I feel terrible guilt for not working, even though my husband repeatedly tells me not to worry about it. I am not physically capable of going back into the food service industry, I cannot get a job in my field until I finish my last certification (which I can't do until I finish my last semester), and I don't know of any businesses who would hire a person who in 3 months would have to quit to go back to school.
I have never had to ask for money from my husband before and I don't like it! Should I try and get a job and just not tell them that I will be going back to school come summer? To me that seems like a lie by omission....
Any thoughts or suggestions would be greatly appreciated,
Beaux
Plz be warned, this may turn into a genuine rant lol.
I am going crazy and I'm dragging my husband there with me! As many of you know, I was diagnosed with ruemitoid arthritis about 6 years ago. Up until that time, I was a workaholic. I owned a resturant, a B&B, and a catering company. Unfortunately, things had gotten to the point that I just wasn't physically capable of keeping up with my businesses, so I decided to sell them and return to college. It took a few years to actually find buyers and so the first couple of years I went to school part time and still worked until I finally unloaded them all.
After I sold everything I became a full time student. I paid off my home and car and had enough money in the bank that I shouldn't have to work until I finished school. Unfortunately, around this time I was the victim of a mugging. The crack-head who robbed me hit me in the face with a golf club and stole my wallet (he was quickly apprehended, and it turns out he had JUST been released on parole for having broken a woman's collar bone with a wooden post and stealing her purse). My right eye was knocked out of it's socket and over the course of the next year and a half I had to have 6 surgeries on my eye (thank god the Victims Relief Fund paid for my medical bills--$230,000+ that I would have never been able to pay on my own).
Well, as many of my friends here remember, a couple of years ago my ex and I got back together after 8 years apart. I only had 2 semesters of school left when he asked me to move to South Carolina with him and I decided to finish college in Charleston.
Unfortunately, since our marriage isn't recognized here in South Carolina, the school said I had to sit out a year before they would accept me with out having to pay out of state tuition. I won't be able to go back until this coming summer semester at the earliest.
Meanwhile, I am going INSANE not working or going to school! My husband works for the Department of Defense and makes a very nice living, but now that we (Americans) are definitely going to go into Sequester his pay is going to go down by 1/5 for at LEAST a month (possibly more). That in and of itself wouldn't be so bad except we just paid $45,000 to a surrogacy clinic in hopes of starting a family.
I am not completely with out income, as I have several rental properties, but I only have about $800 a month coming in after taxes and expenses.
I feel terrible guilt for not working, even though my husband repeatedly tells me not to worry about it. I am not physically capable of going back into the food service industry, I cannot get a job in my field until I finish my last certification (which I can't do until I finish my last semester), and I don't know of any businesses who would hire a person who in 3 months would have to quit to go back to school.
I have never had to ask for money from my husband before and I don't like it! Should I try and get a job and just not tell them that I will be going back to school come summer? To me that seems like a lie by omission....
Any thoughts or suggestions would be greatly appreciated,
Beaux
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