So I posted about this situation I have a while back when it started to take a turn for the worst but now I'm still lost, confused, and at least more hopeful.
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I have to agree: it's time to let him know how you feel, either with words or actions! How about something up-front like, "Right now I really just want to (be with, touch, hold, hug, kiss) you." Use which ever word you think will get his attention without being too threatening. Being roommates complicates things a little if things don't go well, but it sounds as if he's into you.
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just kiss him, if his eyes shut then he is into you. If not then he is just going to shut your eyes with his fist. Not that much to loose
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He's your friend and your roommate on top of the feelings you have for him, so I assume you want to play things on the safer side. Safe or not though, you've got a real shot at something here and I don't think you'd want to live thinking about it like a missed opportunity. I like that you've taken into consideration that he is in a relationship and I think it's safe advice just to say "don't do anything you wouldn't want to get caught doing."
My suggestion is to approach it starting from what you know, your feelings for him. If you feel comfortable coming out to him then you could let him know that you are gay and that he is an attractive and fun guy. I don't know what proof you're going off for his attraction to guys, so I highly advise avoiding language that would seem to put words in his mouth or make him feel like he is being outed. While you may know or think he has feelings for men, only he knows to what extent and he should get the chance to say those things first. You can also be forward with him by letting him know that you didn't know whether to take some things as signals or not.
I really hope it works out for you both. There's no easy way through it and there's always the chance people will react poorly, but there's always the chance that things might just be better than perfect.
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I would tell them how you feel!
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Stop pussy footing around the subject, and stop this immoral procedures malarky (i.e. Spying on him)
Tell him your gay. No need to tell him you want to jump into bed with him yet. If that happens, so be it.
If you guys can't communicate NOW while practically mauling each other, then there is zero chance of having a relationship of any type.
Ah the youth of today......
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I would say, be honest with him. Express your feelings. For better or worse, it is always best to be honest, otherwise it will still keep eating you up. Tell him that you feel strongly for him and allow him to decide for himself what he wants to do with his life...but I think it's best to be honest and spill the truth for him.
I would personally not recommend kissing him as confession, rather than verbally telling him. It could be rather overwhelming if that happens.
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