How are you today?

[Kiid]

I have alot of energy tonight so I'ma put it to good use once my ginger ninja text me and we will go out to my friends party and i thunk it'll be heaps fun. IDK if I'll drink that much but I got vodka and lemonade there ready
Also I'm listening to some very mellow music atm putting me in a good mood

[Bowyn Aerrow]

Try it.

Forgiveness is good for the soul/heart whatever - not his, yours.

Perhaps now that his situation has changed his heart has changed.

I'm not saying jump back in where you left off, do be cautious.

Forgot to mention.

I stumbled into Sam quite often these days. He smiled but I avoided him. I make sure to take a separate elevator to be away from him.

But truthfully I miss him as a friend. Sam was the first guy that I made friend with after I joined the company that I'm working with right now. He joined his company few months earlier than me.

Most of his friends that ridiculed me have left the company. Sam was promoted to a higher position but he's alone now. Well Nick is around. But i rarely see him.

Yesterday I had lunch with my colleagues in a shopping mall's food court. Sam sat few tables apart. He ate his his lunch alone.

Last week both of us had our lunch with our colleagues in the same food court. We sat quite close to each other. At one point, Sam just looked at me.

I feel guilty. As much as I want to have him back as friend, I can't. I keep remembering what his friends did. He followed them because well, they are his friends and colleagues.

Maybe I should give him a chance as it wasn't his fault to begin with. Maybe I should volunteer to apologize. I miss him a lot. I'm torn.

Maybe I should mend my relationship with Nick too.

[Jay]

There is no reason to not be polite, no matter what has or will happen, manners and respect are #1 always, so there is no reason to stop you from saying 'Hello' or even having an office chat with Nick....BUT he is a collegue, not a friend, so whatever happens between you and Nick, stays at work, nothing more nothing lessmile:

I'm known as a very easy going and friendly guy. But admittedly ever since I found out what they did, I become icy toward them. It's a spontaneous act. I can't no longer crack a smile to them (Except to Nick). I can't even open my mouth to say hello (Again, except to Nick). So yes, I have become less polite to those guys.

Even though I have forgotten and forgiven them, I still get a painful flashback when I see them around.

But you are right, I need to remain polite toward them even after what they did to me. I need to work this one out.

Try it.

Forgiveness is good for the soul/heart whatever - not his, yours.

Perhaps now that his situation has changed his heart has changed.

I'm not saying jump back in where you left off, do be cautious.

I've forgiven them, Bowyn. It's just that I keep getting flashback when I see them around. I also become a bit scared and a bit panic when I see them.

I stumbled into my female friend who work with them on yesterday's morning. She mentioned to me about them. She told me that those guys are going to Phuket for a meeting (Work related). I asked if she's going to join them. "No, I can't stand to see their faces every single day", she replied.

I've been thinking, Bowyn. I think it's better to keep a gap in between. But as per advice from Daz, I will respond to their hellos and remain professional.

If Sam indeed has a different heart now, that's good. But I will not approach him and push him to me. Let him come to me. Let the friendship rebuild naturally and not forcefully.

Thanks Bowyn and Daz.

[Bowyn Aerrow]

Jay,

Your a good soul.

[XRIMO]

Has not been my week... just made it through the 2 worst days I have had at my job.

[Dan1980]

It's been a good day todaymile:

[Puck]

It has been a wonderful day so far!

Day off from work, was able to sleep in...and for once the sun is shining outside my window

All I'm waiting for is the animated woodland creatures to waltz into my bedroom and help me get dressed :tongue:

[Story]

It has been a wonderful day so far!

Day off from work, was able to sleep in...and for once the sun is shining outside my window

All I'm waiting for is the animated woodland creatures to waltz into my bedroom and help me get dressed :tongue:

Ehem who needs to get dressed! Live free! Without clothes :-)

[BellyNel]

How am I today?
Well, felt good for a few hours as I figured out how to CAD "decently" enough, even though I've been using Photoshop for the past 3 years.

I've only been out to coworkers for the past 3 years only. I have no idea what it's like to be touched "affectionately" by another gay man. My now ex-coworker, who's gay, during the past year, had been more affectionate with me - squeezing my shoulders as he walked by my cubicle, calling me "... Nelson, mi amor..." I do find him hot, and he is, too! But, he's off limits to me - he's like an older brother to me, and he's had many hot exes. He's friends with me... well, at least I think he thinks of me as so. I've eaten lunch with him practically everyday for the past 3 years.

Just this past Wednesday, I went bowling with him and his friend. I was just invited, and normally I wouldn't go, but I want to experience bowling for the first time. So, there I was, with his other friends, who were buff and hot and sexy and super affectionate with each other. My ex-coworker had squeezed my lap several times that night.

How should I be reading into this? Just being affectionate?

How should I be reading this? Just being friendly? After he left the company, I told our receptionist, who was also close to him, that I had a slight crush on him, and if it was okay or not to think that way. She said that's no surprise. If he was straight, then I would be crushing on him!

[brybry87]

^Make a new topic on the 'Need Advice' section, you might get more feedback that way..?

Sorry to hear that though, being in the friend-zone sucks..