Wade Wrote:I'm not doing so hot. I take an acting class and a few weeks ago my teacher made a point to tell me that because my teeth are so crooked, I'll never be able to be a proper stage actor. That really bummed me out cause I hate my smile. I know it's awful, I don't need to be reminded. But I was just getting over it when today, after I asked to be excused from an exercise because I felt embarrassed about doing it, he told me he wanted to speak to me privately.
He asked why I refused the exercise and I told him it made me uncomfortable and that I've recently realized that performing/acting just isn't what I want to do. Then for some reason, he decides to spend 5 minutes telling me how ugly I am, picking out all my physical flaws/insecurities (my weight, my teeth, my face in general, etc) and that if I want to be an actor I need to accept it so that I can focus on roles that call for that kind of actor.
I told him that I once played a romantic lead in a community theater show and he said "That's the last romantic lead you'll ever play. You're not Hal (the character I played), you're more like Hal's lab assistant." That's what he said verbatim. Mind you, this is all AFTER I told him I'm not interested in acting anymore.
Those aren't nice things to hear. I'll be honest, after that I found an empty stairwell and cried like a 16 year old girl being stood up for prom. It was gross. Now I'm so full of residual anger and depression I can't even find the will to go to class. I feel humiliated. I feel embarrassed that I actually try to pick out nice clothes or get a nice haircut cause what the fuck does it matter? I really really really don't want to be around people right now, but I have no choice. Fuck this day.
Wade 
I am so sorry that happened. If you need someone to talk to I am always here.
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Wade Wrote:I'm not doing so hot. I take an acting class and a few weeks ago my teacher made a point to tell me that because my teeth are so crooked, I'll never be able to be a proper stage actor. That really bummed me out cause I hate my smile. I know it's awful, I don't need to be reminded. But I was just getting over it when today, after I asked to be excused from an exercise because I felt embarrassed about doing it, he told me he wanted to speak to me privately.
He asked why I refused the exercise and I told him it made me uncomfortable and that I've recently realized that performing/acting just isn't what I want to do. Then for some reason, he decides to spend 5 minutes telling me how ugly I am, picking out all my physical flaws/insecurities (my weight, my teeth, my face in general, etc) and that if I want to be an actor I need to accept it so that I can focus on roles that call for that kind of actor.
I told him that I once played a romantic lead in a community theater show and he said "That's the last romantic lead you'll ever play. You're not Hal (the character I played), you're more like Hal's lab assistant." That's what he said verbatim. Mind you, this is all AFTER I told him I'm not interested in acting anymore.
Those aren't nice things to hear. I'll be honest, after that I found an empty stairwell and cried like a 16 year old girl being stood up for prom. It was gross. Now I'm so full of residual anger and depression I can't even find the will to go to class. I feel humiliated. I feel embarrassed that I actually try to pick out nice clothes or get a nice haircut cause what the fuck does it matter? I really really really don't want to be around people right now, but I have no choice. Fuck this day.
I love how some people know how to speak very tactfully... :/
Just...don't care about it (I know it's easy to say...).
More and more I see that if those things pass you through, you "win" the battle against that kind of asshole...it makes you stronger I'm sure.
Just accept yourself and f*ck him (well...not in that meaning, perves !! )
Maybe he just saw you didn't accept yourself and he wanted to tease you to make you change towards that.
Take your classes as if nothing happened, then you'll be the winner in this thing. 
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Ekwarph Wrote:I'm anxious. 
Why are you anxious?
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i went in for surgery today to get a cyst removed, and now my balls hurt and i have to take some nasty anti-bio-tics, you can probably guess how my day was:frown: 
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jaxc Wrote:i went in for surgery today to get a cyst removed, and now my balls hurt and i have to take some nasty anti-bio-tics, you can probably guess how my day was:frown:
But it does feel good knowing that the cyst is gone! I hate knowing that stuff is inside me that shouldn't be, like my last remaining wisdom tooth which needs to be taken out next month.
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Dan1980 Wrote:Why are you anxious? I always push back the moment to apply for jobs...I really want to apply abroad but...idk...it is not just an insignifiant question, because depending on what I will find, it will determinate my future life. And it's too early for me to choose :'(
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Wade Wrote:I'm not doing so hot. I take an acting class and a few weeks ago my teacher made a point to tell me that because my teeth are so crooked, I'll never be able to be a proper stage actor. That really bummed me out cause I hate my smile. I know it's awful, I don't need to be reminded. But I was just getting over it when today, after I asked to be excused from an exercise because I felt embarrassed about doing it, he told me he wanted to speak to me privately.
He asked why I refused the exercise and I told him it made me uncomfortable and that I've recently realized that performing/acting just isn't what I want to do. Then for some reason, he decides to spend 5 minutes telling me how ugly I am, picking out all my physical flaws/insecurities (my weight, my teeth, my face in general, etc) and that if I want to be an actor I need to accept it so that I can focus on roles that call for that kind of actor.
I told him that I once played a romantic lead in a community theater show and he said "That's the last romantic lead you'll ever play. You're not Hal (the character I played), you're more like Hal's lab assistant." That's what he said verbatim. Mind you, this is all AFTER I told him I'm not interested in acting anymore.
Those aren't nice things to hear. I'll be honest, after that I found an empty stairwell and cried like a 16 year old girl being stood up for prom. It was gross. Now I'm so full of residual anger and depression I can't even find the will to go to class. I feel humiliated. I feel embarrassed that I actually try to pick out nice clothes or get a nice haircut cause what the fuck does it matter? I really really really don't want to be around people right now, but I have no choice. Fuck this day.
2 words for that guy that made you cry...
FUCK YOU...
as to you Wade.
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Wade Wrote:He asked why I refused the exercise and I told him it made me uncomfortable and that I've recently realized that performing/acting just isn't what I want to do. Then for some reason, he decides to spend 5 minutes telling me how ugly I am, picking out all my physical flaws/insecurities (my weight, my teeth, my face in general, etc) and that if I want to be an actor I need to accept it s8o that I can focus on roles that call for that kind of actor..
What a load of crap, i cant believe he said that to you, wow what a ****, you shouldn't of had to stand there and put up with that, which is not true and even if it were there's been many great actors, stage & screen who are by no means "perfect" , I recall hearing similiar stories from some actors from there earlier years, they are living proof that what was told to them was bulls*** . This idiots wants bland expressionless clones with a perfect fucking cheek to cheek ratio and no charm or presence, just model looking types, I notice a lot of films are like this now, wooden leads who look like they stepped of a billboard for men's shampoo and all the girls look like Megan fox, maybe show business is becoming more superficial in the mainstream.
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Dear Wade,
This guys is a lying piece of crap. There are plenty of average to ugly looking actors who got lead roles and romantic parts. This 'teacher' is talking out his ass.
Looks change over time, and now days there are diets, exercise programs, adult braces, contact lenses and a whole slew of other 'aids' that can be applied to improve 'beauty' (a relative term).
Even IF you were ugly (you are not) your 'problem' can be fixed. There is no cure nor any surgical procedure, no bottled product, or whitening tooth paste that can fix the internal ugly which this wanna be actor (who clearly failed in acting himself thus became a teacher) has.
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