I didn't have time to post about yesterday because I spent hours in traffic going to the beach for carnaval. Well, I was feeling great. I was confused because a friend of mine who didn't speak to me for a week seemed to make things like they were before I came out to him, and I had slept over at his place. Things really did seem like they hadn't changed.
But he seemed like he was trying to tease me. I mean, come on if you're straight and you know your friend is attracted to men, why the hell would you walk around your house with only a towel on, kind of announcing you were going to take off your clothes before you did, and even pass on a smoke to him with some of your spit on it and mention "this is kind of like kissing me, isn't it?"? I'm in love with him, I was controlling myself so I wouldn't jump on him. Can someone help me??
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i wish I was better...but im taking it one day at a time. hopefully, I'll get over this stump soon enough...just not motivated to do anything, even though I spent the day focusing on me.
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Oh no I filled in too many questionnaires at orientation and now Im getting spammed with all sorts of emails
I just got one from "the faith hope love fellowship" o.o I don't actually want to join their group that much because I joined so many more, but how can I tell them I don't want to join the Faith Hope LOve fellowship. O_o it's like the most positive thing ever
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Bravo Wrote:I didn't have time to post about yesterday because I spent hours in traffic going to the beach for carnaval. Well, I was feeling great. I was confused because a friend of mine who didn't speak to me for a week seemed to make things like they were before I came out to him, and I had slept over at his place. Things really did seem like they hadn't changed.
But he seemed like he was trying to tease me. I mean, come on if you're straight and you know your friend is attracted to men, why the hell would you walk around your house with only a towel on, kind of announcing you were going to take off your clothes before you did, and even pass on a smoke to him with some of your spit on it and mention "this is kind of like kissing me, isn't it?"? I'm in love with him, I was controlling myself so I wouldn't jump on him. Can someone help me??
It's becoming more and more clear to me that he does indeed like men, and that he might have a thing for you.
But I think he's too afraid of letting people know, and he's going out of his way to not say it. I don't think he will be able to outright say he likes you or that he likes men.
The way he behaved after you came out is a clear indication he's not comfortable with admiting his own sexuality. I believe you think the same.
What you can do is get him alone, do things like nothing has happened, laugh, joke and what not, but throw in there "I'm glad we can have a good time again, you were behaving strange last week"
And if it goes by smoothly without him getting upset you have to make a move, meaning you have to tell him "I came out to you because I like you. I'm not trying to make you uncomfortable or upset, but you have to know"
The possible outcomes:
-He can start behaving strange after that and then back to normal, meaning he really can't admit his own feelings.
-He will feel safe enough to come out to you, although most likely will ask you to keep it a secret.
Either way, you have to tell him, because if you don't you're going to be hung up on him and you won't be able to either get what you want or move on. Tell him!
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southbiochem Wrote:It's becoming more and more clear to me that he does indeed like men, and that he might have a thing for you.
But I think he's too afraid of letting people know, and he's going out of his way to not say it. I don't think he will be able to outright say he likes you or that he likes men.
The way he behaved after you came out is a clear indication he's not comfortable with admiting his own sexuality. I believe you think the same.
What you can do is get him alone, do things like nothing has happened, laugh, joke and what not, but throw in there "I'm glad we can have a good time again, you were behaving strange last week"
And if it goes by smoothly without him getting upset you have to make a move, meaning you have to tell him "I came out to you because I like you. I'm not trying to make you uncomfortable or upset, but you have to know"
The possible outcomes:
-He can start behaving strange after that and then back to normal, meaning he really can't admit his own feelings.
-He will feel safe enough to come out to you, although most likely will ask you to keep it a secret.
Either way, you have to tell him, because if you don't you're going to be hung up on him and you won't be able to either get what you want or move on. Tell him!
I'm trying... He asked me about my fuel tank (because I had to fill it after the last time I went to his place), and I said Shell is good, but I think the tank lasted longer because we weren't speaking to each other last week because I thought that as it seemed all good again, it was safe to bring it up. He simply slapped me in the chest jokingly and said "don't be silly, we're all good!"
And when I said it was late and I had to go home he said "but I thought you were going to sleep over. call you brother to let him know!", and seemed like he really wanted me to stay. I might be seeing things the way I want them to be, but I actually think we're on to something.
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I'm feeling great! I've got that "mission accomplished" feeling because I got caked by Steve Aoki yesterday and a champagne shower as well! My friends were saying I was going to get caked jokingly (because I'm part asian they say he's my uncle) but I actually did! But my clothes are stinky and I feel like I won't be able to wear them again... 
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Slept a lot....i think i am always sleepy because of the food supplement my mom is giving me
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Good day today.
Cleaned the kitchen, doing the wash, made a nice meal, opened a bottle of wine, watching movies, and checking out gayspeak.
Everything just seems right today.
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Bravo Wrote:I'm trying... He asked me about my fuel tank (because I had to fill it after the last time I went to his place), and I said Shell is good, but I think the tank lasted longer because we weren't speaking to each other last week because I thought that as it seemed all good again, it was safe to bring it up. He simply slapped me in the chest jokingly and said "don't be silly, we're all good!"
And when I said it was late and I had to go home he said "but I thought you were going to sleep over. call you brother to let him know!", and seemed like he really wanted me to stay. I might be seeing things the way I want them to be, but I actually think we're on to something.
Yes, it maybe you're seeing a bit too much into it. But that doesn't mean you can't be right.
Either way, whether it's true or not, you can't know until you tell him.
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Well funeral services are not all the fun that the name implies.
But what was really interesting is whilst I was joking about 'meeting a man' at a service like this, there was one guy who was all into me, chatted me up, maintained eye contact... gave me his phone number so if I need someone to 'talk too about my 'grief'...
And no, he is not a member of the staff either he was a 'grieving survivor'...
So there are people who tread where I only dream to go.....
Will I make the call?
Um no I already tossed the slip of paper with the phone number on it. Seriously, anyone who would try to pick up a person at a funeral is kinda creepy....
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