03-30-2013, 07:55 AM
Hey guys,
I'm 24 and I have been dating a younger guy (hes 20) for the last two years. I love him to death and he is perfect for me in every way but one... our sex life is non existant. For the last year and a half our sex life has been come down to sex maybe once a month if I'm lucky. It all started when he got diagnosed with syphilis. This was an issue since he said he was a virgin with only one or two sexual encounters when we started dating and I had previously been a man slut. The assumption of course was that I gave it to him but it turned out he was the infected one and I was clean. We had been dating for 6 months at this point so I wasn't sure how to take it since I had caught him texting other guys flirty messages and even on online dating sites. After some fighting and what not we got past it.
I thought things would go back to normal after that but no luck. Even after we got the green light from the doctor he wasn't really interested in sex. He said he was just having trouble getting over having an STD. I totally got it so I gave it some time. After a month or so I had enough so I talked to him about it again and we had great sex.
Yay things are back to normal! Nope again we were back to me trying to have sex and him pushing me away. Now he says the problem is me being to aggressive and putting to much pressure. Ok I give him space but he dosent make any moves after a month. I talk to him about it and we have great sex. Again he holds out after having sex once or twice.
Essentially this just goes on from then till now with him giving me some excuse each time. Bottoming hurts because i got tight, im constipated, your to aggressive, I'm so tired at night i can't, I dont like having sex when your roommate is around, It's more special if we do it every once in a while and the list goes on.
I'm not going to lie guys, I know I have a crazy sex drive. I mean i could do it like 5 times a day and still want more but once every two months is just not cutting it for me. I've resorted to porn and jerking off when hes not around because get this he gets upset if I jerk off. I dont want to break up because I love him but I'm reaching the end of my rope. I can't cheat on him an open relationship is out of the question because the idea of him with someone else kills me. I mean he dosent want to have sex with me why would he with other people. I mean were both young and in our 20s and were already having less sex than a married couple of 20 years. Please give your advice.
I'm 24 and I have been dating a younger guy (hes 20) for the last two years. I love him to death and he is perfect for me in every way but one... our sex life is non existant. For the last year and a half our sex life has been come down to sex maybe once a month if I'm lucky. It all started when he got diagnosed with syphilis. This was an issue since he said he was a virgin with only one or two sexual encounters when we started dating and I had previously been a man slut. The assumption of course was that I gave it to him but it turned out he was the infected one and I was clean. We had been dating for 6 months at this point so I wasn't sure how to take it since I had caught him texting other guys flirty messages and even on online dating sites. After some fighting and what not we got past it.
I thought things would go back to normal after that but no luck. Even after we got the green light from the doctor he wasn't really interested in sex. He said he was just having trouble getting over having an STD. I totally got it so I gave it some time. After a month or so I had enough so I talked to him about it again and we had great sex.
Yay things are back to normal! Nope again we were back to me trying to have sex and him pushing me away. Now he says the problem is me being to aggressive and putting to much pressure. Ok I give him space but he dosent make any moves after a month. I talk to him about it and we have great sex. Again he holds out after having sex once or twice.
Essentially this just goes on from then till now with him giving me some excuse each time. Bottoming hurts because i got tight, im constipated, your to aggressive, I'm so tired at night i can't, I dont like having sex when your roommate is around, It's more special if we do it every once in a while and the list goes on.
I'm not going to lie guys, I know I have a crazy sex drive. I mean i could do it like 5 times a day and still want more but once every two months is just not cutting it for me. I've resorted to porn and jerking off when hes not around because get this he gets upset if I jerk off. I dont want to break up because I love him but I'm reaching the end of my rope. I can't cheat on him an open relationship is out of the question because the idea of him with someone else kills me. I mean he dosent want to have sex with me why would he with other people. I mean were both young and in our 20s and were already having less sex than a married couple of 20 years. Please give your advice.