Help in long term relationship...

[ABomb]

Thanks for the advice on this...

To be honest, I was having a crappy day and kinda needed to blurt it all out anonymously...kind of figured it would be a place to "bitch and whine" (aka get some shit of my chest) safely....(sorry if I pissed anyone off by doing so - all I can say to that is don't read it if you're not interested!!). It felt better to do so - and yes obviously I want to sort this shit out one way or another (hopefully for the better of the relationship - it's not quite as easy as "shut the hell up or leave" - if only life were that simple hey?!). So thanks for the bits of advice. I don't really talk about that stuff so, you know, it does kinda help.

It's actually not as bad as all that - in fairness I was being a bit melodramatic. Obviously I'm not actually going to "go off and have an affair" - I guess it was just more about not wanting to feel trapped. I think it's pretty normal to feel that way sometimes. That said, I do realise I need to sort some shit out - talking is of course the right thing. Things have actually been pretty good over the last week or so but I know I need to bring up that stuff sometime...

Anyway cheers guys

[throbbinblue]

I have read through your statement about 3 times and really began to understand your predicament. Kinda like damn if you do and damn if you don't.
8 years is a very long time in the gay community, biblically seven years is the year of completion and the 8th year is the year of new beginnings.
I think you and he need to have a serious come to Jesus meeting or you will bemoaning the fact next year when it is 9 years.